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Topic: this is a difficult one
debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:09 PM
you can't help who you are and aren't attracted to. You shouldn't be considered a racist just because you happen to not be attracted to other races. thankyou jill. i totally agree.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:10 PM
I agree, if you're not interested and the keep asking questions just block them. You do not have to explain why you're not interested. I had a guy who mutual matched me on here (and winked me on OTHER dating sites), then denied my add request when I came across him on myspace saying he wasn't interested... now THAT was confusing. Haha, my guess is he was married or co-habitating and didn't want anyone to know he is on dating sites. ill do that, thankyou

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:11 PM
Well look at my case I am not racist but definately I like white man I am spanish and i do not like spanish man It is like when you do not like pizza you just don;t like it why we do not know! EXACTLY THANKYOU. just because you dont like spanish men, does make you racist, your simply attracted to other races like me.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sat 07/19/08 12:14 PM
I'm in the same boat debbie. I happen to not be attracted to other races in general. I don't feel it makes me a racist. I'm not judging anyone else, I'm not saying I'm to good or anything of that sort. It's along the same line as I am attracted to tall men. Or I prefer guys with dark hair. It's a preference. I have tons of black and hispanic friends. I grew up being the minority in my neighborhood. However, I like who I like... and I make no apologies.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:16 PM
I'm in the same boat debbie. I happen to not be attracted to other races in general. I don't feel it makes me a racist. I'm not judging anyone else, I'm not saying I'm to good or anything of that sort. It's along the same line as I am attracted to tall men. Or I prefer guys with dark hair. It's a preference. I have tons of black and hispanic friends. I grew up being the minority in my neighborhood. However, I like who I like... and I make no apologies. thankyou jill, thats exactly how i feel. im attracted to older guys mainly with dark hair. isnt it normal to have preferences?? thats why we have so many different races?? in my opinion what were both saying is totally normal and racist

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sat 07/19/08 12:18 PM
It's like getting mad because someone isn't attracted to me because I'm not their type. No one is required to be attracted to me and I'm not required to be attracted to anyone else. Just because we have preferences (EVERYONE Does) doesn't mean we should be labeled something like a racist.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:18 PM
It's like getting mad because someone isn't attracted to me because I'm not their type. No one is required to be attracted to me and I'm not required to be attracted to anyone else. Just because we have preferences (EVERYONE Does) doesn't mean we should be labeled something like a racist. exactly jill. this is my point entirly.

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sat 07/19/08 12:20 PM


debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:21 PM


boneyjoe Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 6196	Sat 07/19/08 12:22 PM
be like other women debbie,,,,tell them your not intrested,,must not be to hard to do,,,,,,,other women do it all th time

johnboy072472 Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 4874	Sat 07/19/08 12:23 PM
You got your peanutbuuter in my chocolate!!!!!!! NO...... you got your chocolate in my peanutbutter!!!!!! ITS ALL GOOD!!!!!!!!!

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:24 PM
be like other women debbie,,,,tell them your not intrested,,must not be to hard to do,,,,,,,other women do it all th time im to soft thats the problem, i dont want to hurt them, but im going to take the advice ive got from some of those in this thread, if they continue to interigate me, asking if it theres race,when i have said im not interested, i will simply block them

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:24 PM
You got your peanutbuuter in my chocolate!!!!!!! NO...... you got your chocolate in my peanutbutter!!!!!! ITS ALL GOOD!!!!!!!!! lol

Up2Us Joined Sat 03/15/08 Posts: 3926	Sat 07/19/08 12:54 PM
Interesting.... I've heard this a number of times. I don't necessarily view it as being racist, although it does make me wonder. I do view it to be slightly shallow. What if that person was your soul-mate? Possibly someone that you could truly fall in love with emotionally.

Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Sat 07/19/08 12:54 PM Edited by Amathyst2 on Sat 07/19/08 01:05 PM
Debbie is an amazing person! She is the furthest from racist I have ever seen! Some of you are too quick to judge! I'm gay and she became my friend! I do not understand some people Debbie. Usually the one that points the finger is the one with something deeply rooted and unconscious guilt. Don't sweat it sweetie! Thou shalt not judge or thou shall be judged! To answer your question, just tell them that you would like to be friends because you like them, but you only into dating white men. I have lots of black friends. One guy thought I was flirting with him and was interested in him when I was just playing around. He told me he was only into chocolate and I told him I was only into women.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:56 PM
Interesting.... I've heard this a number of times. I don't necessarily view it as being racist, although it does make me wonder. I do view it to be slightly shallow. What if that person was your soul-mate? Possibly someone that you could truly fall in love with emotionally. well ive always been friends with them and thats never happened, i dont blow them away because im not attracted to them.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:57 PM Edited by debbie1980 on Sat 07/19/08 12:58 PM
Debbie is an amazing person! She is the furthest from racist I have ever seen! Some of you are too quick to judge! I'm gay and she became my friend! I do not understand some people Debbie. Usually the one that points the finger is the one with something deeply rooted and unconscience guilt. Don't sweat it sweetie! Thou shalt not judge or thou shall be judged! To answer your question, just tell them that you would like to be friends because you like them, but you only into dating white men. I have lots of black friends. One guy thought I was flirting with him and was interested in him when I was just playing around. He told me he was only into chocolate and I told him I was only into women. thanks, and thats what ill do from now on. and lol

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 07/19/08 12:58 PM
Interesting.... I've heard this a number of times. I don't necessarily view it as being racist, although it does make me wonder. I do view it to be slightly shallow. What if that person was your soul-mate? Possibly someone that you could truly fall in love with emotionally. well ive always been friends with them and thats never happened, i dont blow them away because im not attracted to them. plus ive never been called shallow in my life.

Amathyst2 Joined Thu 06/19/08 Posts: 1226	Sat 07/19/08 01:08 PM
See what I mean Debbie? lol... No one wants to jump on the bandwagon now!!

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Sat 07/19/08 01:08 PM
Interesting.... I've heard this a number of times. I don't necessarily view it as being racist, although it does make me wonder. I do view it to be slightly shallow. What if that person was your soul-mate? Possibly someone that you could truly fall in love with emotionally. I disagree. I don't think it's shallow at all to have preferences. And my "soul mate" is someone I will be attracted to inside and out.