actually ive only ever had one boyfriend... it never gets that far... one to three dates and then its done.... some one is always too busy or has other problems to deal with so that never leaves any time or energy for dating to turn into something more.....hence why im on here

Well like I said..u do the asking..God gave you the looks..so you gotta do the askin..sounds like the shy guys like u..so you go make em happy and ask em out.END OF STORY

Ha ha I hear ya..lol..

Now if only more women would adopt that mentality... Ask out the shy guys. =P

They are intimidated. If they have talked to you, then maybe you talk too much. Somehow, I doubt that is it though.


I think they are intimidated by you. If you come off as "pure", then they have plans on having sex or playing around and you seem more like the type to marry. One would hate to abuse one who is Pure. At least I would. I had a friend like that who was perfect. But Church was also her life, and Church could never be my life, unless maybe I had kids. Anyways, I never tried to be with her because I am afraid I would hurt her (not by cheating or anything) but because of my imperfections.

I cuss, she doesn't. I like rated R movies, she likes rated G or PG. It just wouldn't work.

Opposites attract, my ass.

lol.... okay... thank you..... see that the kind of reponse i was looking for.... and sometimes thats what i think it is.... becuase i swear that i am really nice.. i treat ppl how i want to be treated so i know its not my attitude...idk... but some of the posters here are right... i just need to give it time... it was just something i was thinking about tonight and i figured id ask away

My opinion here. But reading between the lines, seems that you do send out some "vibe" that you want to more of a "friend" to guys than anything else. Some women just do this, and sometimes they don't know that they do. Anyways, when you send out that vibe then guys will admit how attractive, hot or whatever they say you are. Yet, they will avoid asking you out.

Yes, the male ego does not like rejection. Then again, neither does the female ego. Basically, humans hate rejection. Just that some of us can learn to deal with it better than others. But, back to the male thing here. If a guy sees a woman that he "feels" is just "out of his league" then he will become her friend...but that is it. He won't risk asking her out cause in his mind he feels that she will say no. And, to be honest here, history tells guys that women will usually use the same response...."You are a nice guy, but...". Happens alot, so instead of going through that, guys just decide that it isn't worth it. Seriously. Why would you do something if you felt, believed that it would not turn out the way you would want it to?

That's the thinking anyways. I'm sure there are guys who want to get with you for sex. There are guys who would want a relationship. Normally the guys that just want sex would be a little more aggressive, and they usually have the corny pick up lines. But the guys who want to seriously date you fear you. I believe you have that friends vibe about you. But, eventually, some guy will get past that.

I would just be grateful that the guys you're attracted to are obviously attracted to you, too. I usually am attracted to the ones that aren't attracted to me and vice versa. Nature's cruel joke. Count your blessings and ask a guy out.

The guys know there is something very special about you ... they admire you,but are not quite ready for a serious relationship yet(most 19 year olds wanna still play....which is normal fro a 19 year old).
And They recognize you to be a "Keeper"....someone to be respected, and not to be played with.

But In due time, that special man who is right for you...and IS ready for a special lady in his life... will come along ....all in due time.

Stay away from Vitamin C!!!

Well from me looking at your age, most guys that are that age are not going to have the job or mony to meet you unless your talking about men in your town. being on the net for some, it's just a game and it happens to alot of us. It's just knowing how to weed out the weeds.

huh? im confused..... but if that was supposed to be an insult then w/e not like i would ever...

I'm sorry you took that as an insult. I did not mean to.

boys are stupid..throw rocks at them..

Men can be insecure or shy, too! If you like him, say somethin' to him. Don't miss or waste a chance. You will regret it later.
Good luck!

Nan

alright.... i get that asking the guy out is the best thing to do if he doesnt.... but the thought that floats around in my mind is that if i am the one that asks him out, will i be the one who has to do everything? ie will i have to put forth all the effort to attempt to make something of what is?.... thats why my "relationships" (if you can call them that) never work.. because i exhaust myself trying to make everyone happy but i never get any effort/ attention returned

I think you just answered your own question.

what do you mean? how so?