Let's say you have been dating someone for about 6 months and things are going well.
But, there is something you are keeping from them.

Maybe it's a medical issue like cancer, or that you are currently seeing a psychiatrist.

Anyway, you're not ready to talk about this, its personal, but you fear the person may not want to deal with an issue like this.

But if the person finds out before you tell them, then they may consider you with holding information that they had a right to know and end things with you.

Any Advice ?

after 6 months into a relationship....I would hope its an open enough realationship I could discuss anything...
IF I couldnt....I would end it for both of our benefits

Maybe start out with a have you ever...

Have you ever known anyone who has cancer?
and lead them into it that way, the person does have the right to know if they care about you.

Has it been a serious 6 months? I know that if I were her, I'd like to know. I'd want to be supportive and helpful. If you're not comfortable telling her, you run the risk of her finding out and calling you out on it and that could have dire consequences - so if you want to keep her around, you're better off coming clean with her. If she bails on you, hell, she wasn't the one for you after all right?

Be well

I wish it was that easy !

For me it would depend on what was ommitted. I would wonder why after 6 months the person felt they couldn't trust me with whatever it was. Best of luck!

Based on my experience, I would have to say that if trust and honesty are "omitted" in the relationship, you'll have all the privacy you want before long.

Trust the relationship and just talk to her. If you aren't comfortable doing that at this stage of the game you may want to re-examine the entire situation. Those are pretty important corner-stones in a relationship.

'If you don't know me by now'
-Harold Melvin and the Blue notes


You should listen to the song.

It's not always a trust issue, I may not feel like sharing the issue.

Would this be considered an ommission to you?
When would you consider sharing "everything" (I dont) detrimental to relationship?
Why would you want to share "everything" with another being?

To tell her puts me in a vulnerable position.

Is it imperative to the relationship??? Something like HIV or aids......yes should be told upfront. But I dont think everyone has to know every little detail in the first 6 months

Being vulnerable doesn't always have a bad outcome.

or at all... there are certain things I chose to keep private

and I dont think that is being deceitful.....some things should be private

just my own personal observation

some couples want to bond to the extent of losing their individuality and identities.

but to each their own...

Actually it all depends what it is your hiding in the first place.

For if it is Cancer or some type or illness they would be very understanding on those cases more so then most would think.


If it is that you are currently seeing a psychiatrist. Then it would all depend on what for and the reasons.

People are much more understanding then most think when you are being honest with them then when your trying to hide something.

Nothing like HIV, it's just something I don't feel comfortable discussing yet.

Maybe, but why risk it ?

if this info will have to be shared - be fair and think of not only yourself but your partner.

if it will not affect your partner, discuss at your convenience and not just cause...

There's your answer. If she's not worth the risk, then don't tell her.

Good luck