my ex was fighting for custody, had a promotion hanging out after trial. said he could never leave without him, the mom was negligent.
here's the question for men--------how low do you have to be feeling to literally say-----i'm done there is nothing here for me.
i feel he has abandoned him. and i don't know who is anymore.
he told me that since i didn't have children i couldn't understand his pain------i told him should his son ever die we would have somthing in common. yes, for as long as we dated he didn't now my son was killed.....not exactly a conversation starter.
trust me i'm glad he is an ex! i've discovered his immaturity and self-centered thinking

Need some more info to understand the question.

how low does a man have to be to turn his back on his friends,family and his son....leave the state.
to pursue personal gain and a fancy job title.
you can't run from problems, they follow you.

idk...really low

That does not sound like someone I could be attracted to. I hope he learns what is important in life one day...and soon for his son's sake.

Children are the most precious gift and that sucks that he didn't realize that! Cheers to you for getting rid of him!!! ex

i just feel sooooo bad for the child!
so things did not go as he planned-that's life!
but to watch someone say they care about their kid and then put a dollor amount (promotion - out of state) on that boys sense of trust, which he is about to crush! just kills me. and it's not even my child.
if he thinks he is hurting now.....well, is in for #*%@.
he complained about how the mom did not care---and he is going to turn his back! hypocrit!
he is a great insurance adjuster---he just price tagged his own boy!

Unfortuantely there are many fathers out there who put theirselves and their own happiness before their childs.
My 9 yr son's father hasn't laid eyes on him since he was 2. Despite repeated attempts by myself to involve him in his life by sending him pictures, drawings, and copies of his report cards. He'd rather raise his brother's children as his own than his own. It's a shame cause he has no idea on what a wonderful child he's missing in his life. And when he finally does, it's gonna be to late.
But I have to say there are men out there who do take an active role in their childrens lives despite the fact they are no longer with their mothers. I say hats off to them. I only wish they were more.
Any male can be a father, but it takes a real MAN to be a DAD.

Not all men are that way my nephew is the custody battle right now his first wife bipolar by the way had them did not want them gave them back took him to court she got them back had them for a month then gave them back to him now wants the kids back so I hired a lawyer we are fighting for our life here she is on her med's now so she is super mom and presents herself to be as such.

My nephew had many of opprotunites to walk but he didn't he has put up with him being accused of sexual abuse, physically hurting her, we have had cps,called so many times we know them by name.

We go to court next month I have open my home to him and his boys and we will continue to fight until the end for the boys. He has had the whole finacial burden for the boys while she makes 83000.00 a year and has paid for nothing.

so you see not all men are that way there are a few good men still out there.