i met a man and thought wow a date maybe what a hurtful experiance i
hope all you out there are remembering the other you dont have to make
it bad just dont hurt i cant even guess how bad others must feel funny
i cant write a poem or give advice maybe someone else
can!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I can identify with what you're saying. I met the best girlfriend I
ever had on a dating site; but the other 7 people I met on dating sites
were all total disasters. What I learned was that you never rush into
anything, you never let anyone rush you, you never say anything more
than you're comfortable with, you have to look for red flags and protect
yourself no matter what.

Anyone worth being with will understand that you're simply looking out
for your own safety....and will accept that.

And, let's face it, there are a lot of jerks out there, both male and
female. And some of them can be pretty convincing pretending that
they're NOT jerks!

Gotta be careful and take your time....

yes you are right take your time i guess i got too happy or exited
somnone was there a weakness i believe in people

I met a woman on match.com. we had 100% of all items listed, a perfect
match, and I was very attracted to her.

She lived about 150 miles away but her sisters family lived about 20,
and she visits often.

We went on a date, a simple dinner and conversation that lasted about 6
hours. We talked about everything, even religon with no debates, we got
along perfectly. I thought is was great and couldnt wait for another
date.

But to no avail, she wont return my e-mails or phone messages. Even
though I was in a 5 year LTR before and been out of the dating scene for
awhile, I thought the date was a perfect success.

what went wrong????

Sure, everybody wants to feel accepted, everybody wants to matter to
someone, that's only normal. Sometimes we don't look closely enough at
situations that come up, though; we make assumptions based on what we
would LIKE to believe, rather than on the actual realities of the
situation....

And there are a lot of people who will take advantage of that sort of
thing. I've met a few! And it's no fun in the end. But I always tried
to learn something from every self-absorbed, manipulating scumbucket I
ran across. And, after awhile, you get to where you can recognize some
of the warning signs that you might have missed earlier.

This actually happened, some years back: I was talking to a girl on
another site, she was funny, and intelligent, and seemed totally normal
(whatever that means). We talked for a couple months before deciding to
meet in person. When we finally did meet, she asked me to go to a motel
with her -- because her "hobby" was starting fires in motel rooms.
Ooops, wrong number.

A couple years later, she was working at a mall and got in trouble for
stealing things out of her store, and trading them to a guy who also
worked at the same mall, and was stealing stuff out of his store.

Live and learn. Hopefully.

I had a strange on-line encounter. A very mysterious profile but a
lovely picture. An exchange of emails followed. I never seemed to get
much info from her. She seemed really shy, and as I understood it, she
was still in the closet. I tried several times to get her to "talk",
but either she would not respond or she would repeat what she had
already told me. At some point I sent her a poem, just to say hi. Got
a lovely responce. OK, so I asked a couple questions, tried to be nice
and caring make her comfortable. no responce - sent another poem, every
time I sent a poem she responded. So I emailed her, told her another
poem, said it would be my last until or unless she had something to
offer to the conversation. Only I was very nice about it not so direct.
She sent a responce What a beautiful woman I was, kind and sweet and
she PRAYED that I would find a GOOD MAN, every woman deserves to be
happy with a GOOD MAN. Yea, did I fall into that or what - a religious
zealot trying to fix me and there I was trying to help HER find her way.
What a laugh!

as far as this on line stuff goes.... i just go with the flo.