I talk to this guy for about 5 minutes then he starts about me calling
him and then he wants us to me the same day..I feel thats rushing it a
bit

I agree you should have more time to get to know one another, if it's
right a little time wont hurt but thats just my thoughts on the subject

I agree, that is pushing it. For some reason I just have this idea that
maybe a week or two is enough time for the chatting, either by IM or
phone until you feel comfortble enough to meet in person. Although, I
have met some guys sooner, and for whatever reason it went no further
then that. Anyways, that just my opinion.....and we all know opinions
are like bathrooms (everybody has one)...LOL.

Have a great day!

I would take things slow. Most everyone I have met here seems to be
genuine, but there is always the possibility the word psycho comes into
play.

Jeez, that's scary. I don't think you can ever have an unchangeable
"schedule" for when it's right to meet -- a lot depends on the
situation, distance, etc. -- but when they start pushing for it right
away, I find that to be really inappropriate (not to mention
uncomfortable).

My own system is to go from computer to phone calls gradually, then, if
things seem OK, to a meeting in maybe a month. But I talked to one girl
on computer & phone for a year before we met in person (and she lived 20
minutes away), and she was totally worth the wait!

red flag!!!!! humm there was a thresd topic under this
catergory tammy about this sorta thing.. try and search it up.

i think chattin for a half day should do the trick, buttons. lol

Everyone has their own speed. All the topics on things that last seem
to say: SSSLLLOOOWWW is best.


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Question answered?

it will vary by each indivisual but definately wait until you feel
comfortable that you will be safe

I totally know what you mean Tammy. Every guy I've talked has wanted to
meet right away. They all claim that I'm so beautiful and can't wait to
see what I really look like. Well all they end up doing is scaring me. I
think when it's the right time to meet someone I'll know. As for giving
out my phone number...I won't because you can trace an address from a
phone number.
Just to what feels right for you.

2 years

i can relate..i've had guys that i met for the first time, give me
theryre phone #s, etc..turns me off..i like to chat for a while on here,
then maybe on the phone after that for a while, then meet. to me if a
guy or a woman rushes into giving #'s, wanting to meet so fast, sounds
like desperation to me..

You can be with a person for years and know nothing about them.It all
comes down to do i trust this person to tell me the truth and do i allow
myself to be close to them.It's a big decision to reveal who you really
are to a person.You can leave yourself at their mercy.Time has a way of
letting you see things in a persons character that you never knew
existed.There are only two types of people in the world,takers and
givers.And people that are takers are people that deserve to be alone.

i have met someone on line and he has already ask me to come see him in
jamaica told me reference numbers to do at airport the whole nine but it
just seems strange to want to meet someone so fast. i say chat for at
least 6months and then go further. weird i think.

5 years

@ krow

how about when your heart tells u?

it all depends on how you both feel.

You should meet quickly. There's no reason to delay it - its just
teasing. Lets be frank here, its entirely likely that the guy is not all
there, and the sooner you get it over with the sooner he can move onto
his next "true-love".

Its kinda like "passing the buck" as soon as you can.

I had someone today that wanted me to go to their state, before he would
give me any kind of information about him. Kinda scary if you ask me.

I think if people are going to meet, you should have a good idea of what
the other person is like before you make that kind of move. It is pretty
scary meeting someone from the 'net anyway.

I say, excersize caution. The best choice and the safest.

It also depends on your comfort level.

Too much secrecy is a red flag. If someone expects you to meet them in
person, you'd be crazy to go into it without knowing something
substantial about that person. There are a lot of nutjobs on dating
sites, not so many on JSH (it seems to me, anyway), but you have to
protect yourself regardless.