Topic: ShyGuy speaks
OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:13 PM
Edited by OneShyGuy on Tue 06/17/08 12:13 PM
Thanx DeadFlames

Im just a shy person, I was asking in general for the most part

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:15 PM
I did not choose to be a shy person, I just find it very hard to speak to someone

hikerchick's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:19 PM

I, personally love to approach shy people. I love when they star coming out into the open. Makes me feel privileged when they do. Like they're comfortable with me and can be frank.

Or Jake or Sally. Whoever they wanna be.bigsmile
well, I don't like having to do all the work. They can smile and think up stuff to say just as well as I can. It's not easy for me, either, but I make an effort so that other people will feel comfortable.

Shy people are just too into themselves, not thinking about the other person but only worrrying about how THEY feel.

franshade's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:22 PM
I think those that are overcome with shyness it's due to insecurity.

they are not certain they will be accepted so they stay amongst themselves.

jmo

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:23 PM
You dont think that they would like to say something, but dont know how to say it?

hikerchick's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:25 PM

You dont think that they would like to say something, but dont know how to say it?
I think it's a matter of being willing to take risks. It is no easier for anyone else. I just know how excruciating it is to have to sit there with someone who has nothing to say and I would not want to put anyone through that. So I forget about myself and start asking the other person questions about themselves. They do the rest.

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:29 PM
maybe some were sheltered for most of their life and does not understand how communicating works, its not exactly their fault



What is your impperession of the people who do not talk much? or stay to their self for the most part?







hikerchick's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:31 PM

maybe some were sheltered for most of their life and does not understand how communicating works, its not exactly their fault



What is your impperession of the people who do not talk much? or stay to their self for the most part?









that they have not paid enough attention to the people around them to come up with one decent question or comment.

I like your shoes.
You have a nice tan, do you spend time outside?
I love those earrings, where did you get them?
Have you seen the movie....?

It's not brain surgery/

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:33 PM
So those who dont speak much are selfish?

franshade's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:34 PM
why not listen to the advise instead of repeating the question sunshine?

let loose, be yourself, be confident, what do you have to lose but the fear of inadequacy.

the only person responsible for how you as a person act/react, is you. flowerforyou

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:37 PM
just asking in general mostly

I just happen to fall under the Shy guy part...


In a sense, I think I am greedy for not speaking to other


I really do have a very hard time holding a conversation in person


franshade's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:38 PM

just asking in general mostly

I just happen to fall under the Shy guy part...


In a sense, I think I am greedy for not speaking to other


I really do have a very hard time holding a conversation in person




sounds like you know what the problem and solutions both are.

flowerforyou

hikerchick's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:40 PM

So those who dont speak much are selfish?
well, not necessarily, but they are so wrapped up in themselves they are not seeing how their silence affects other people. They need to stop thinking about how they feel and think about how the other person feels. How hard is it to look at someone and come up with a question? And when you ask people about themselves, they immediately warm to the topic.

franshade's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:42 PM
leaving you in the very best hands {{{hiker}}}

good luck flowerforyou

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:42 PM
I dont think others are interested if Im not approached

but maybe Im wrong for thinking that...

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:44 PM
I find it very hard to look at someone and speak to them

even someone I have known for about 12 years, stil there isnt much conversation between us

BlueskyJ's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:44 PM

just asking in general mostly

I just happen to fall under the Shy guy part...


In a sense, I think I am greedy for not speaking to other


I really do have a very hard time holding a conversation in person



if you're a guy its quite easy really....women love to talk....ask them to tell you about what they did today....then ask them about their past relationships & about the last episode of Sex & the City....hide your ipod under your shirt....and be prepared for an enjoyable evening....

laugh

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 12:52 PM

I dont know if I can agree with that J...

hikerchick's photo
Tue 06/17/08 01:08 PM

I dont think others are interested if Im not approached

but maybe Im wrong for thinking that...
well, that is what I am saying. Why do you expect everyone else to make the first move? You need to be proactive and realize that that person is just as uncomfortable as you are and you need to help them to feel better.

It's your civic duty, man!

OneShyGuy's photo
Tue 06/17/08 01:11 PM
Your an inspirational Character Hiker

thank you