Hi my name is Sherry, new to dating (again@60) after 13 yrs. The last time I did internet dating it was in it's infancy. So here's my situation. I had a date last week with what I thought was a nice guy. But the internet being what it is where anyone can be anything they want to be, I did a background check on this guy. My initial results sent up a flag. I agreed to meet at a public place, just to see for myself. His profile said he was 57, but other info indicated he was 70. Said he was a retired lawyer and that sometimes his sister? lived with him (she kinds popped in and out when between relationships). Records did say he was a retired lawyer, but open property records said that his sister? also was listed as co-owning the property.

Here's what I believe....he was 70 and the sister? was a wife. I never revealed all that I knew, but when he picked up that I knew more that he was telling me, he got mad....said I had invaded is privacy. I think he had lots to hide.

Have any of you done background checks....she we let them know?

Thanks for any advice you can give.

Sherry

very smart move on your part for doing the background check...I have done them in the past, it's amazing what you can find out about a person. Guess there won't be any second dates with the this guy again

my advice is to really get to know the person through e-mail and phone before making the decision to meet. You do not have to disclose to the person that you did a background check on them. Also, if you see a red flag back away or if you have any reservations about meeting someone, don't!

He could have owned the house with his sister....people do that as well.

No Ive never done a background check but what program did you use and did it cost anything?

Yes, I had a background check run.
I'm not sure I would necessarily tell the person it was done. I guess it would depend on the depth of the relationship.
If in doubt, check it out. The sad thing is that sometimes a person's character cannot be found out on a background check.

sad that you have to feel that you need a background check . i would like to think that you can trust people but really that is out the window!

where do you do a background check?? I would love to do one... but you have every right to do it!! you meet him on the internet and its hard to trust people on the internet, I would forget about him and move on.. if he lied about his age what else could he lie about? deff would be calling NEXT!!

i have not done them, but then again i wouldnt do them in real life ether.. i treat the internet like real life.. if there is something to be found out.. i will find it out. or it was my own stupid fault for not seing it.


but in your case you got the creepy vibe and checkd him out. if i get the creepy vibe i just tell the guy to go kick rocks..

What if you ran a backround check, and say the person did commit murder, but there lawyer got it , plea bargined down to misdemeanor, for assault and battery you still would never know, kinda a odd though eh ?!?

I thought u did a check on me before we got married ( for 20 minutes!!)

i always like to look at her "back ground".....(ass man)

not really concerned about the other stuff

Boy, I'm telling you all, it's not just the internet. Remember, there's a human behind the profile. Could be your neighbor or a person from church, internet or not!!

naw i knew it wasnt going to last.. so i skipped the time it took to do one.. hehe

so is this woman going to talk??? Im too young to email her....

you can e-mail me

lol but I want to know what she used to do a background check!!! Im curious.... Are you going to tell me???

i'll check for you.......

who do you want me to spy on???

I just emailed you!!

hehe.. just tell us how to do a background check!!!

http://www.backroundcheck.com/

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