Hi my name is Perie and im 36 and I have 3 children, I was born in England and in 1003 I met and fell in love with my husband, he is an American citizin and for 2 years we traveled back and forth between the two countires. In 2005 my 2 oldest children and I boarded a plane to bring us here, We were so happy to be starting a new life here in the States. But few months into my marriage I realised he was a horrific man with a horrific temper who would beat me and he made mine, and my childrens life and living nightmare. He hit me once in a public place that I went flying over somebodys car and he was arrested and sent to jail, but it was only for the weekend. He got a friend to bail him out, and he came back to the home. I wanted to leave so many times, but I had nowhere to go. I had nothing my family in England wasnt talking to me as I had moved here. I was an alien in a county that had no law to protect me...I was alone and havin to live with his family, that at that time only saw me freaking out, what they didnt see was the hours of abuse that I had suffered, the mental abuse was worse than the beatings. Well I finally got my ss number and I could go to work and I made new friends new people that I could talk too, I finally started to get myself together and then I found out I was pregnant ( martial rape is hard to prove ) and I was devastaed as this meant I would have to say married to him. One day I was talking to me friend online who was the closet thing to heaven for me as she went through everything with me, she told me that the Goverment did have help for women from other countires that were vitims of Domestic Violence. That was like telling me that I had won the lottery. So I had plans to leave a friend told me I could stay with her as long as I wanted, then Dec 12th 06 I was at home when it started the shouting the whole room was trashed and I couldnt take it so I went outside the home and called my friend to tell her we was on our way. But he came out of the darkness and he was screaming at me ..Then I was pushed into the decking of the porch and I remember thinking oh my thats high and omg he is trying to push me off the top of this thing...Then the most horrific pain torn though my body and I fell to the floor...I was in so much pain, then the police and ambulance was there and the next thing I remember was looking at myself in the windows of the ambulance and I said never again ..Never again was he going to hurt me ....So that day I left...................he went to jail for 6 months and my son was born in July 07...........Now what... Maybe I should of gone back to England but here is home for us and my children are so happy here and it would tear them up if they had to leave, so I got help and through and Domestic Voilence I got help from the Goverment and I am still waiting for my visa, I have worked at the same place for 2 years...And then yesterday I got a call from one of the bosses.My work visa has expired............So now I carnt work and so can not bring in a pay check I dont know how long its going to take to get a new one the last one took me 10 months to get I have no idea why im going through all this I see no reason yet!!! I will lose my home and everything that I have worked for and its all gone .. I can get no help as im not a US citizen. Yes I could go back but then I would have to leave my baby and I carnt do that his dad wont sign papers to say he can go and if I take him then I would be kidnapping so what I ever I do I lose.....I have no idea what is going to happen all I can do is get up and fight..fight ...fight another day....

I am sorry for all the pain you had to go through, but remember you made it this far, and with God's help you will keep on going. I wish you the best of luck!

Wow! What a story! I really am sorry this happened to you. It almost reminds me of my friend who moved here from Germany. She, too, married a man from the US. Things didn't work out so they got a divorce. But trouble came right after that. Right now, she is doing much better. She has a wonderful boyfriend and is going to school here. I really hope for the best for ya. There is always a light at every tunnel. I wish I could give you better advice but I don't know the system.