My friend wanted me to add a little tidbit of info to this...

"This was long couple of phone conversations that seemed to go very well and last many hours each. Why do that if not interested? like are they THAT bored?? "

.....yes. Bored or stupid.

It can mean a couple things. If i'm interested in someone for there mind. I keep the conversation in that direction. I don't go off the path if you were to say and let them think there is somthing there otherwise. If i'm interested in geting to know them more on personal level. I let them know. I'm up front with every one i talk to. I let them know where i satnd with them. Now mind you i don't come out and jump in with both feet. Women are somthing special and knowing that and showing that to them is how the inerest will take place. One thing i will not say like some men do. is that i never been interested in a women just for her body. I like most have had a one night stand and nothing wrong with it as both have an understanding of it. As far as being on the net. I don't look for a pice of ass. Yeah if i wanted to, it's easy to get, but it's a wast of my time for me knowing it's just a so call quick fix, that never last. It's somthing that some men need,but i don't play with women that are on here for sex. Hell if you think about it. Being on the net and knowing how many men they might of been with. Where is the respect? So i take no interest in women like that...

I talk to many people on here. But, only one person for hours on end. I think my friends is right that talking to someone for HOURS on end could make someone think it meant more than just friends.

"Well then" I say "Hmmmmm?" And then give you a Afterwards Asking Wondering Why But thats OK because rule all.

Bingo.

(((Angel))) I take a while to get to know someone...but with me, it's more about chatting and not so much the phone. Not a phone person at all. Maybe they didn't know until hours of phone talk.

I cannot speak for anyone else, but I'll generally know if there is any connection within five minutes of saying hello.

Some of us are clear about our intentions right up front when we talk to someone. Others do not wish to draw boundaries and prefer to talk to many potential romantic partners at once without being up front while doing so.

This can create a situation like what happened to your friend. Let's say party A had long and great conversations with parties B and C. Obviously B and C do not know about each other. Party A likes them both but has a decision to make.

Now lets factor in JSH geography for arguments sake. Party B is 600 miles away and Party C is 1400 miles away. It is very likely that Party C is going to be walking away scratching his or her head wondering what the hell happened!!


There are no easy answers here. Human nature is prone to deception and sometimes it takes awhile for people to figure out their own minds. It just sucks that Party C had to be hurt in the process of Party A making up his or her mind...

Who is this thread about?

I don't know. I was just theorizing Lee

If it makes you feel any better I also theorize it is not about you

They sure don't have my wireless plan. If they do they'll need another job.

LoL...I bet that goes over great, telling them why they're such a loser that you're not even interested in someone you've never met before....

I don't mean it like that, I mean that if they are 60 years old, live in the other half of the country (or another one), smoke (am allergic to), don't want children-as I have 3, not into ANY of the same things and vice versa, etc. Then I say that I would still continue to chat back and forth-but I ACTUALLLY had one guy tell me that he didn't want to waste his time. Well.......%$#$*&.

about you, they are all about you, mirror

Actually to clarify my previous statement a little-an example is this 67 year old from Oregon who drinks and smokes frequently, doesn't want kids, just kind of sits at home, insisted that we were compatible and that he wanted to meet me.?? How, and why? I want someone who is active, wants children, preferably with some of their own at home, only drinks or smokes occasionaly, and even if they are a little older, is still active and into at least some of the same things as myself. Age is irrelevant-to a point.

Right now I happen to be talking to a great guy in Missouri, who is unfortunately kind of far away, but so much else clicks, so who knows?

It sounds like you are speaking of someone who was talking with someone, and thought something was there, and then found out there was someone else? That has to hurt.

For me, I would not spend a handfull of hours on the phone with someone just because I am bored. It is misleading.

Maybe it took that long to figure out the boundrys.