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Topic: Ultimatums
No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:28 PM
I don't DO ultimatums! Do you? Seriously, has this ever worked for anyone?

sunneedaze Joined Mon 05/26/08 Posts: 236	Sat 06/07/08 10:30 PM
not for me

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 06/07/08 10:30 PM Edited by Winx on Sat 06/07/08 10:32 PM
Hey, (((Love))). Where are you? Did somebody give you an ultimatum? Let me at them.

ljcc1964 Joined Fri 10/19/07 Posts: 8298	Sat 06/07/08 10:30 PM
Works with my kids....

johncarl Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 5074	Sat 06/07/08 10:31 PM
i live outside the box.if i get one of them i move on.i always keep it real.and am true to myself.and dont lie .why lie.life is short

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:31 PM
Minneapolis...but no one knows it yet, cause I'm stealth tonight. Shhhhhhhh!

willy_cents Joined Sat 07/14/07 Posts: 4471	Sat 06/07/08 10:32 PM
ultimatums always have an adversw effect onme. The back bows, stubborness sets in....hmmmm...maybe need to work on the stubborness thing

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:32 PM
Works with my kids.... xactly! I kinda expect to be talked to as an adult by now.

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 06/07/08 10:33 PM
Minneapolis...but no one knows it yet, cause I'm stealth tonight. Shhhhhhhh! Ohhhh...stealth. Soooo cool.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Sat 06/07/08 10:34 PM Edited by TheShadow on Sat 06/07/08 10:34 PM
I don't DO ultimatums! Do you? Seriously, has this ever worked for anyone? It did for me this last month when my son was born. Told my ex if her ex she got back together with showed up at the hospital, id really hurt him. So i gave her the choice. He can stay home and deal with it or he could share a bed next to her. What do think she did

DTHRomeo Joined Wed 06/20/07 Posts: 43387	Sat 06/07/08 10:34 PM
One time Someone said i gave them one I don't think i did But screw it ...

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:34 PM
i live outside the box.if i get one of them i move on.i always keep it real.and am true to myself.and dont lie .why lie.life is short Ultimatums tend to change my answers from maybe to no pretty fast...and from yes, to I don't really know now.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:38 PM
I don't DO ultimatums! Do you? Seriously, has this ever worked for anyone? It did for me this last month when my son was born. Told my ex if her ex she got back together with showed up at the hospital, id really hurt him. So i gave her the choice. He can stay home and deal with it or he could share a bed next to her. What do think she did Ok...that's a horse of a different color. I would have done the same thing on that one...((((Shadow)))) How is your little cherub?

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:40 PM
My boss gave me one (((Winx))), but he knows better. He doesn't see it often, and forgets what it takes to get my ire up. He was thoroughly refreshed about that today! For sure!

Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 39051	Sat 06/07/08 10:44 PM
My boss gave me one (((Winx))), but he knows better. He doesn't see it often, and forgets what it takes to get my ire up. He was thoroughly refreshed about that today! For sure! Uh-oh. Bosses are different than relationships. You are between a rock and hard place, Love. At least he knows where you stand now.

TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 14218	Sat 06/07/08 10:47 PM
I don't DO ultimatums! Do you? Seriously, has this ever worked for anyone? It did for me this last month when my son was born. Told my ex if her ex she got back together with showed up at the hospital, id really hurt him. So i gave her the choice. He can stay home and deal with it or he could share a bed next to her. What do think she did Ok...that's a horse of a different color. I would have done the same thing on that one...((((Shadow)))) How is your little cherub? He is doing good, just waiting for him to come back from his trip. As far as your question, that can go alot of ways but id say most of the time it doesn't work.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:49 PM
My boss gave me one (((Winx))), but he knows better. He doesn't see it often, and forgets what it takes to get my ire up. He was thoroughly refreshed about that today! For sure! Uh-oh. Bosses are different than relationships. You are between a rock and hard place, Love. At least he knows where you stand now. I don't have to worry about him...he's one of my best friends. A disagreement isn't going to cause THAT kind of damage...I'll prolly sulk for a day or two and he'll walk on eggshells around me til the coast is clear. I just really dislike that behavior...in anyone! My last ultimatum WAS in a relationship and that's why I am single.

brooke007 Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 5469	Sat 06/07/08 10:49 PM
doesnt work for me at all

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 06/07/08 10:51 PM
I don't DO ultimatums! Do you? Seriously, has this ever worked for anyone? It did for me this last month when my son was born. Told my ex if her ex she got back together with showed up at the hospital, id really hurt him. So i gave her the choice. He can stay home and deal with it or he could share a bed next to her. What do think she did Ok...that's a horse of a different color. I would have done the same thing on that one...((((Shadow)))) How is your little cherub? He is doing good, just waiting for him to come back from his trip. As far as your question, that can go alot of ways but id say most of the time it doesn't work. Doesn't work well with me for sure! Just feeling out if I'm unreasonable and forced choices are acceptable to others...maybe I'm just too darn stubborn for my own good sometimes.

LookinRound Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 7894	Sat 06/07/08 10:52 PM Edited by LookinRound on Sat 06/07/08 10:52 PM
I don't DO ultimatums! Do you? Seriously, has this ever worked for anyone? Nope, never works, for either side. Compromise, however, is open to negotiation.