ue his insurance . i know for a fact in NY the EAP or Employee
Assistance program is set up for employee aand spouse and children, so
utilize as much as you can from it.


Good luck with school, don t let kids think otherwise, this is between
you and him not you and him and kids.

The man has no intentions of changing...He know that i can't rally walk
out right now So if I have to wear my marital chains ..I guess I go for
the golden ones...revenge may be the only sweet experience at hand

ok, well I tried to help, if won t change then leave and goto a
relatives house.

Excellent advice Kojak, you are right about the EAP and insurance
programs. Hate to see a marriage break up with little kids involved.
Up to her now.

Thanks KOJAK Your advice is real....ps I dont have eny realtives all my
friends family etc are his nice huh

Me too. but ty for confirming Marie.

Your Welcome. OMG so you have no living family or friends of your own
hun ? I am so sorry to hear that... I l be here to listen and offer
advice, as will many other on here. we are like a family you will see
that if you stay.

I logged on with the intentions of finding and pursuing a discreet
online affair and stumbled into this site. I am all bark and no bite. I
will find my way out of this mess I will keep you posted thanx every
one. Venting was helpful

glad we could help.

I've been in that situation before and I went online and got caught
sneeking through, and everything blew up even worse cause you show that
you can't trust the person , and what if it ends up to be innocent, I
would say ask him to be clearly honest with you and if you dont feel
satisfied maybe ask him if the next time hes emailing if you can sit in
the room with him and watch his body language if hes willing to let you
sit in the room i would say let it go but then if he dosent the best
thing to do is talk, cause once you go and break that trust barrier its
hard to gain it back you might as well kiss the relationship goodbye.

I'm available I hate damn CHEATERS !!!!!

Well Lanlie I'm glad you were able to get that out of your system and
I'm also glad that I didn't need to help... Hopefully you guys can get
this resolved in a positive manner that would be beneficial for the both
of you... You take care of yourself and don't get to frustrated over all
this mess... The stress you are under is not good for you or your
children and he should realize that...

I also say two wrongs don't make a right. Try and work it out somehow.
You're not saying how long you've been married or if there's any kids
involved. What if he finds out you're on here too, he'll think the worse
also. Tit for tat is not the answer.

Counseling wont do anything except open lines of communication by means
of an intermediary. Opening up communication doesn't mean squat when all
you are getting is lies... You want to get him back?? Leave his ass,
tell him to get his tail from online since he is obviously already
trying... Tell him to see how that works out because he wont be getting
it from you anymore. I've done the game playing thing and it only
prolongs the inevitable and messes with the psyche the whole while. It
is VERY true.... 2 wrongs do not make a right.

Don't play with fire, you'll burn yourself.
I agree with Kojack, two wrongs don't makes it ok.