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Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Sat 05/31/08 02:25 PM
Aww I'm sorry deb, just keep doing what you're doing. She may not neccessarily see it now, but with time she'll come around. (hugs) shes being let down to much, and i cant replace her dad, and her mom at times. I understand that, but the situation is what it is pretty much. Can only do what you can. but also shes been suffering with tummy ache and going to the loo a lot. when i spent all day yesterday with her and all night and neally all day today she was fine. i think she might be poorly because shes upset. Hmm, well the only thing I could offer is, just keep reassuring her as best you can. Maybe that will help to keep her feeling good somewhat.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:25 PM
those who know me will now how much i love my neice to bits. to those of you who dont, my neice is 7 tommorow, her dad has just recently left the uk to live in the america witb his new girlfriend. The last few months, her mom (my sister) has been going out every weekend, one night and one day, plus she works full time,i babysit it her whenever my sister goes out, and me and my mom look after her at school holidays. My sister was meant to pick my neice up today at 6pm, a 6.40pm she hadnt arrived, so i rang her to see if everything was ok, my neice said to me'DONT YOU WANT ME ANYMORE' I responded of course i do, im just checking your mommy is ok. Her dad as gone and left her, i feel her mom is neglecting her, and i feel this is why she said this today, im so upset. I wish there was more i could do. I get very depressed when she goes home as i miss her so much, but today with her saying that i feel distruaght. Shes only 7! u r doing the best u can.

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Sat 05/31/08 02:25 PM
why? what do you think is going to happen if you don`t do more ? she will get depressed and ill. the feeling of not being wanted is horrible. she will NEVER feel not wanted by me, but i think she does off her mom and dad. are you reliving something from your own past ?

scarlets Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 473	Sat 05/31/08 02:26 PM
im glad to hear

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:27 PM
Aww I'm sorry deb, just keep doing what you're doing. She may not neccessarily see it now, but with time she'll come around. (hugs) shes being let down to much, and i cant replace her dad, and her mom at times. I understand that, but the situation is what it is pretty much. Can only do what you can. but also shes been suffering with tummy ache and going to the loo a lot. when i spent all day yesterday with her and all night and neally all day today she was fine. i think she might be poorly because shes upset. Hmm, well the only thing I could offer is, just keep reassuring her as best you can. Maybe that will help to keep her feeling good somewhat. I do, today weve been singing and dancing, she does everything she loves doing when shes with me. those words just made me feel so sad.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:28 PM
why? what do you think is going to happen if you don`t do more ? she will get depressed and ill. the feeling of not being wanted is horrible. she will NEVER feel not wanted by me, but i think she does off her mom and dad. are you reliving something from your own past ? maybe i can email you on this one??

Max_Darkling Joined Sat 03/29/08 Posts: 1166	Sat 05/31/08 02:28 PM
That is so sad my heart goes out to that poor little girl You may want to talk to your sister about that oh dont say that, im doing what i can. I will pray for you and your family God bless. I did not mean it in a bad way.

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Sat 05/31/08 02:30 PM
I`m sorry Debbie,. why do little ones have to suffer so much pain,..what did they do to deserve it ?? I can really feel for you feelin for her,..and how much she is being effected by her parents ( lack of love,..) you can almost see the writing on the wall,..

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:30 PM
That is so sad my heart goes out to that poor little girl You may want to talk to your sister about that oh dont say that, im doing what i can. I will pray for you and your family God bless. I did not mean it in a bad way. thankyou Im doing everything i can, im very angry with her mom, im the one doing everything she loves and spending quality time with her, and im sitting here crying, why isnt her pissing mom doing more.

DestinysDream Joined Wed 02/20/08 Posts: 4805	Sat 05/31/08 02:30 PM
She's just being a little girl saying things Debbie. If she knew you how you felt she would hug you tight. Have you talked to her about it? Take care hon.

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Sat 05/31/08 02:31 PM
why? what do you think is going to happen if you don`t do more ? she will get depressed and ill. the feeling of not being wanted is horrible. she will NEVER feel not wanted by me, but i think she does off her mom and dad. are you reliving something from your own past ? maybe i can email you on this one?? sure -- through this site ?

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:32 PM
I`m sorry Debbie,. why do little ones have to suffer so much pain,..what did they do to deserve it ?? I can really feel for you feelin for her,..and how much she is being effected by her parents ( lack of love,..) you can almost see the writing on the wall,.. it comes down to her dad is a selfish bastard and her mom is becoming just as bad. seriously, if i could have her, i would, in a flash.

kk35695 Joined Fri 03/21/08 Posts: 1924	Sat 05/31/08 02:32 PM


debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:34 PM
She's just being a little girl saying things Debbie. If she knew you how you felt she would hug you tight. Have you talked to her about it? Take care hon. She said it because she thought i was ringing her mom because i wanted to send her home, but the truth is, she does feel neglected by her mom and dad, and NEVER by me, until today when i rang her mom. Ive explained to her i was just checking mommy was ok, but the fact she feels this way is so sad. She doesnt even look pleased to see her mom anymore.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:34 PM
why? what do you think is going to happen if you don`t do more ? she will get depressed and ill. the feeling of not being wanted is horrible. she will NEVER feel not wanted by me, but i think she does off her mom and dad. are you reliving something from your own past ? maybe i can email you on this one?? sure -- through this site ? yes, if thats ok??

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Sat 05/31/08 02:35 PM
I`m sorry Debbie,. why do little ones have to suffer so much pain,..what did they do to deserve it ?? I can really feel for you feelin for her,..and how much she is being effected by her parents ( lack of love,..) you can almost see the writing on the wall,.. it comes down to her dad is a selfish bastard and her mom is becoming just as bad. seriously, if i could have her, i would, in a flash. how is it that you and your sister are so different ?

beachbum069 Joined Mon 04/07/08 Posts: 14325	Sat 05/31/08 02:35 PM
I`m sorry Debbie,. why do little ones have to suffer so much pain,..what did they do to deserve it ?? I can really feel for you feelin for her,..and how much she is being effected by her parents ( lack of love,..) you can almost see the writing on the wall,.. it comes down to her dad is a selfish bastard and her mom is becoming just as bad. seriously, if i could have her, i would, in a flash. You seem to be doing exactly what she needs, having a good adult role model. She may not show her appreciation now, but in 15 years you'll have the best reward ever-a healthy,loving niece. Keep up the good work.

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:37 PM
Her dad is getting married in a few weeks, (yes it didnt take long) and i asked her about it, and she said, dont talk about it, i dont want to leave england. Also her mom is making her go to america for a week over christmas, and she doesnt want to go, she cried when she told me. My sister is a selfish ***** just thinking about going out and geting drunk. I could NEVER send my child away for christmas if she didnt want to go.

May777 Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 1238	Sat 05/31/08 02:37 PM
why? what do you think is going to happen if you don`t do more ? she will get depressed and ill. the feeling of not being wanted is horrible. she will NEVER feel not wanted by me, but i think she does off her mom and dad. are you reliving something from your own past ? maybe i can email you on this one?? sure -- through this site ? yes, if thats ok?? absolutely,.i may be headin out for a walk here shortly but I will read it when I get back,..k

debbie1980 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 20487	Sat 05/31/08 02:38 PM
I`m sorry Debbie,. why do little ones have to suffer so much pain,..what did they do to deserve it ?? I can really feel for you feelin for her,..and how much she is being effected by her parents ( lack of love,..) you can almost see the writing on the wall,.. it comes down to her dad is a selfish bastard and her mom is becoming just as bad. seriously, if i could have her, i would, in a flash. how is it that you and your sister are so different ? because i take responsibilty for her, where my sister will throw her on anyone, if i wouldnt have her. Thats never happened as ive NEVER said no. she hates it everwhere else.