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Topic: If you're looking for a relationship....
Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Sat 05/31/08 04:15 AM
When you find someone you're interested in, do you talk to others too, or do you wait to see where things will go first with the person you're talking to? Still not sure about how to go about handling that sort of thing when it comes to online dating.

CATBW56 Joined Tue 02/20/07 Posts: 7224	Sat 05/31/08 04:18 AM
why limit yourself...........it's a free world, you can talk to whomever you wish to. If things develope more with that special person there is no reason why you still can't talk to others.

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Sat 05/31/08 04:19 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Sat 05/31/08 04:21 AM
why limit yourself...........it's a free world, you can talk to whomever you wish to. If things develope more with that special person there is no reason why you still can't talk to others. Just don't want to put myself in a position where I may like more then one person, only to end up choosing one over the other, therein hurting someone in the process.

Tommo Joined Sun 09/02/07 Posts: 571	Sat 05/31/08 04:24 AM
If you find a person you like and are convinced she is genuine (and of course that she likes you), then there is nothing wrong with devoting most if not all your attention on her, otherwise, how will you really get to know her if you are distracted by other girls?

Pajamadawn Joined Sat 09/30/06 Posts: 61	Sat 05/31/08 04:30 AM
this is "just say hi" so saying hello to others when your talking to a potential future mate is something he/she will and should understand,,

Kleisto Joined Tue 05/13/08 Posts: 5704	Sat 05/31/08 04:34 AM Edited by Kleisto on Sat 05/31/08 04:35 AM
this is "just say hi" so saying hello to others when your talking to a potential future mate is something he/she will and should understand,, True, I guess the question is, how much talking via email (not on here) would be too much then. I would just have to be careful I suppose.

MalenaC Joined Fri 12/21/07 Posts: 749	Sat 05/31/08 04:36 AM
IF YOU REALLY LIKE THAT GIRL YOU SHOULD STOP LOOKING FOR OTHERS .WHY LOOKING FOR OTHER IF YOU ALREADY FIND IT WHAT YOU WANT ?

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 05/31/08 05:03 AM
why limit yourself...........it's a free world, you can talk to whomever you wish to. If things develope more with that special person there is no reason why you still can't talk to others. Just don't want to put myself in a position where I may like more then one person, only to end up choosing one over the other, therein hurting someone in the process. I don't give a hoot and I talk to any one I like I always done that. If the other party objects tough cheese she takes a hike. As for you my old chum cross that bridge when you come to it and not before I am a bit older but may be not so wiser. But this is my way and I did it my way

smuckdaddy Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 55	Sat 05/31/08 05:04 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead plnning ahead? so then do you always expect a relationship not to work? if so What's the point of tryying to find something you believe doesn't really exist. I would rather be single then go out with someone that I have doubts with for a good relationship.... That's my opinion anyways.

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 05/31/08 05:09 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead plnning ahead? so then do you always expect a relationship not to work? if so What's the point of tryying to find something you believe doesn't really exist. I would rather be single then go out with someone that I have doubts with for a good relationship.... That's my opinion anyways. do you buy a pair of shoes without trying it on? and if try a pair which doesn't fit do you give up trying another pair. I don't

smuckdaddy Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 55	Sat 05/31/08 05:14 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead plnning ahead? so then do you always expect a relationship not to work? if so What's the point of tryying to find something you believe doesn't really exist. I would rather be single then go out with someone that I have doubts with for a good relationship.... That's my opinion anyways. do you buy a pair of shoes without trying it on? and if try a pair which doesn't fit do you give up trying another pair. I don't If you are a size 10 and you see a size what lookst to be a size 3, are you still going to try it on.....that would not make to much sense to me, but againg, maybe that's just my opinion.

smuckdaddy Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 55	Sat 05/31/08 05:20 AM Edited by smuckdaddy on Sat 05/31/08 05:49 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead plnning ahead? so then do you always expect a relationship not to work? if so What's the point of tryying to find something you believe doesn't really exist. I would rather be single then go out with someone that I have doubts with for a good relationship.... That's my opinion anyways. do you buy a pair of shoes without trying it on? and if try a pair which doesn't fit do you give up trying another pair. I don't If you are a size 10 and you see a size what lookst to be a size 3, are you still going to try it on.....that would not make to much sense to me, but againg, maybe that's just my opinion. Yeah so now i'm quoting myself, but also think of it like this. when you re trying on a pair of shoes, do you do so while your old shoes are still on... I never tried that, but some how I would assume that it wouldn't work... but then yeah that probably doesn't make any sense(sarcasm)

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 05/31/08 06:44 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead plnning ahead? so then do you always expect a relationship not to work? if so What's the point of tryying to find something you believe doesn't really exist. I would rather be single then go out with someone that I have doubts with for a good relationship.... That's my opinion anyways. do you buy a pair of shoes without trying it on? and if try a pair which doesn't fit do you give up trying another pair. I don't If you are a size 10 and you see a size what lookst to be a size 3, are you still going to try it on.....that would not make to much sense to me, but againg, maybe that's just my opinion. Beleive me I have seen that done too though the argument is not between different sizes but different styles I am sure that intelligence is there needs application.

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 05/31/08 06:54 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead plnning ahead? so then do you always expect a relationship not to work? if so What's the point of tryying to find something you believe doesn't really exist. I would rather be single then go out with someone that I have doubts with for a good relationship.... That's my opinion anyways. do you buy a pair of shoes without trying it on? and if try a pair which doesn't fit do you give up trying another pair. I don't If you are a size 10 and you see a size what lookst to be a size 3, are you still going to try it on.....that would not make to much sense to me, but againg, maybe that's just my opinion. Yeah so now i'm quoting myself, but also think of it like this. when you re trying on a pair of shoes, do you do so while your old shoes are still on... I never tried that, but some how I would assume that it wouldn't work... but then yeah that probably doesn't make any sense(sarcasm) I have seen that done too buy it without trying if doesn't fit take it back unfortunate. Do it your way I have no problems My way works and that matters. All the women I meet and I meet many all agree we are buying shoes my way and they do the same so you pays your money and you takes your choice. Now you can quote and double quote as much as you like lets take a look at your profile and compare it to mine and see which way of thinking wins friends.And friends my dear friend is what I am here for and so lovely it is too

BrandSpankinNew Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 216	Sat 05/31/08 07:19 AM
When first 'meetin' someone new who knows where things will lead? Take it a step at a time, as you get closer to one you'll naturally get closer, leaving the field behind. Somewhere in ther, if you're lucky you'll need to leave the field entirely to give things their best chance at success. In other words, once you've found a good dish get away from the buffet - go sit down with it and Enjoy it!

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Sat 05/31/08 07:26 AM
When first 'meetin' someone new who knows where things will lead? Take it a step at a time, as you get closer to one you'll naturally get closer, leaving the field behind. Somewhere in ther, if you're lucky you'll need to leave the field entirely to give things their best chance at success. In other words, once you've found a good dish get away from the buffet - go sit down with it and Enjoy it! You have it exactly right.

robert1652 Joined Wed 11/14/07 Posts: 8447	Sat 05/31/08 07:37 AM
When first 'meetin' someone new who knows where things will lead? Take it a step at a time, as you get closer to one you'll naturally get closer, leaving the field behind. Somewhere in ther, if you're lucky you'll need to leave the field entirely to give things their best chance at success. In other words, once you've found a good dish get away from the buffet - go sit down with it and Enjoy it! That is a perfect solution. I believe the discussion was the process of finding out the taste of the dish in the first place. Doesn't mean to say I try one dish and not look at another does it?

BrandSpankinNew Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 216	Sat 05/31/08 07:48 AM
That is a perfect solution. I believe the discussion was the process of finding out the taste of the dish in the first place. Doesn't mean to say I try one dish and not look at another does it? If you're still looking at the other offerings 'that way' you're still at the buffet. That's ok, those dishes are also looking their best for other eyes too BTW:You're right - didn't mean to go off topic.

smuckdaddy Joined Wed 11/21/07 Posts: 55	Sat 05/31/08 08:04 AM
i continue to talk to others because i want a back up option in case things go bad with one.some might say i'm wrong about that but i think of it as planning ahead plnning ahead? so then do you always expect a relationship not to work? if so What's the point of tryying to find something you believe doesn't really exist. I would rather be single then go out with someone that I have doubts with for a good relationship.... That's my opinion anyways. do you buy a pair of shoes without trying it on? and if try a pair which doesn't fit do you give up trying another pair. I don't If you are a size 10 and you see a size what lookst to be a size 3, are you still going to try it on.....that would not make to much sense to me, but againg, maybe that's just my opinion. Yeah so now i'm quoting myself, but also think of it like this. when you re trying on a pair of shoes, do you do so while your old shoes are still on... I never tried that, but some how I would assume that it wouldn't work... but then yeah that probably doesn't make any sense(sarcasm) I have seen that done too buy it without trying if doesn't fit take it back unfortunate. Do it your way I have no problems My way works and that matters. All the women I meet and I meet many all agree we are buying shoes my way and they do the same so you pays your money and you takes your choice. Now you can quote and double quote as much as you like lets take a look at your profile and compare it to mine and see which way of thinking wins friends.And friends my dear friend is what I am here for and so lovely it is too Well then I guess we have our own waysof doing things, but me personally I tend to go to go for one person and then see where things go, but then I do it with my focus on that one woman rather than on several. It just seems more honest to me.