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Topic: How much do you think
No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:04 PM
the relationship your parents had when you were growing up have influenced the way you are in your relationships today? If at all. Pretty significantly. My parents had a rather turbulent marriage, with tons of arguing and even worse. My father was caught committing adultery a number of times, which led to their getting divorced. And THEN there were the less-than-admirable experiences I've had with the post-divorce girlfriends my dad's had over the years. One of them in particular was a rather difficult experience. As a result, I've had a somewhat guarded, sometimes-distant relationship with ladies. I probably haven't dated as much as I probably should have, and the relationships I DID have usually didn't turn out very well. It probably also explains why I'm still single to this day. So yeah- I'd say the relationships my parents had affected me greatly. It's just too bad those relationships weren't particularly pleasurable. (((Moofooga))) We can all always improve our outlook on relationships. Most of us need to for sure.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:07 PM
Ha, no wonder I have been divorced twice. I blame it all on my parents. The sarcasm survey is two doors down on the left dear. No...this is not the blame game, just a survey to see who thinks they have picked up habits good or bad.

Rzrback Joined Wed 04/11/07 Posts: 368	Fri 05/23/08 11:08 PM
Sorry for the sarcasm. But it all falls in line perfectly.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:08 PM
I think they did a LOT! They were married 52 years That's awesome! Toast to your folks hon!

Rzrback Joined Wed 04/11/07 Posts: 368	Fri 05/23/08 11:09 PM
Ha, no wonder I have been divorced twice. I blame it all on my parents. The sarcasm survey is two doors down on the left dear. No...this is not the blame game, just a survey to see who thinks they have picked up habits good or bad. Both of my parents have been married 3 times. So.....

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:10 PM
Sorry for the sarcasm. But it all falls in line perfectly. It's all good...no need to be sorry...unless you feel your parents made you feel a need to apologize overmuch. JK!

Knightime Joined Tue 12/04/07 Posts: 1848	Fri 05/23/08 11:10 PM
very much so... Im not gonna make the same mistake they did ... ok the same mistake twice they did ... ok .. im still confused ... WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SOOOO HARD !! ARRRRGGGA

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:11 PM
Ha, no wonder I have been divorced twice. I blame it all on my parents. The sarcasm survey is two doors down on the left dear. No...this is not the blame game, just a survey to see who thinks they have picked up habits good or bad. Both of my parents have been married 3 times. So..... Mine are divorced too, but only one their firsts so far....so far.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:12 PM
very much so... Im not gonna make the same mistake they did ... ok the same mistake twice they did ... ok .. im still confused ... WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SOOOO HARD !! ARRRRGGGA If shes, I mean IT'S, too easy, it's prolly not worth doing, I always say.

Rzrback Joined Wed 04/11/07 Posts: 368	Fri 05/23/08 11:14 PM
Yeah, well Im a military brat and served myself. Its near impossible to carry on a relationship in certain situations.

Knightime Joined Tue 12/04/07 Posts: 1848	Fri 05/23/08 11:16 PM
very much so... Im not gonna make the same mistake they did ... ok the same mistake twice they did ... ok .. im still confused ... WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SOOOO HARD !! ARRRRGGGA If shes, too easy, it's prolly not worth doing, I always say. i love edit ..

transientmind Joined Sat 03/10/07 Posts: 4827	Fri 05/23/08 11:18 PM
Twenty-four years of wedded misery that ended with an online affair. I'm freakin' paranoid and choosy but that's my own issue. Too many things blamed on other people these days, IMHO.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:21 PM
very much so... Im not gonna make the same mistake they did ... ok the same mistake twice they did ... ok .. im still confused ... WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SOOOO HARD !! ARRRRGGGA If shes, too easy, it's prolly not worth doing, I always say. i love edit .. Oh...you're naughty naughty naughty...at least I feigned innocence when I did it.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:22 PM
Yeah, well Im a military brat and served myself. Its near impossible to carry on a relationship in certain situations. Oh believe me I know all about that...why I don't date. I move every couple months with my job. sigh

Rzrback Joined Wed 04/11/07 Posts: 368	Fri 05/23/08 11:22 PM
very much so... Im not gonna make the same mistake they did ... ok the same mistake twice they did ... ok .. im still confused ... WHY DOES THIS HAVE TO BE SOOOO HARD !! ARRRRGGGA If shes, I mean IT'S, too easy, it's prolly not worth doing, I always say. I thought if it was that easy you take it twice? Just kidding! Dont yell...Im a perv, remember?

auburngirl Joined Fri 04/27/07 Posts: 18811	Fri 05/23/08 11:23 PM


No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:25 PM
Twenty-four years of wedded misery that ended with an online affair. I'm freakin' paranoid and choosy but that's my own issue. Too many things blamed on other people these days, IMHO. Sorry to hear it...that's a long sentence. This was not meant to be about blame, but I guess that's kinda how it turned out. Ooops...wasn't really thinking.

transientmind Joined Sat 03/10/07 Posts: 4827	Fri 05/23/08 11:32 PM
Twenty-four years of wedded misery that ended with an online affair. I'm freakin' paranoid and choosy but that's my own issue. Too many things blamed on other people these days, IMHO. Sorry to hear it...that's a long sentence. This was not meant to be about blame, but I guess that's kinda how it turned out. Ooops...wasn't really thinking. I think it's a knee-jerk defense mechanism these days, to find the cause in the past. When it really boils down to: ya was hohny, ya shagged the harpy, nah deal with it.

transientmind Joined Sat 03/10/07 Posts: 4827	Fri 05/23/08 11:35 PM
Sorry, nothing wrong with dealing with issues, just saying sometimes we're it.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Fri 05/23/08 11:43 PM
Sorry, nothing wrong with dealing with issues, just saying sometimes we're it. Well, I spose I haven't gone yet...so...my parents were not really that affectionate, but otherwise good. I on the other hand am a hugger, cuddler and highly affectionate kinda gal, so I guess they didn't influence me much unless it was in how not to be a stuffed shirt. I did learn yesterday however that I have picked up other things that I didn't even realize and sounded like my father in a thread before someone pointed it out to me...OMG!