I don't think any of us really know what we want anyway, and building up some mental image of our 'ideal' match is kind of silly. Not that it dooms you to failure, I keep an open mind and look where I am.

Where are you?

lol, I just meant on JSH, aka still looking for someone

no, you are not being honest. If you are shallow, why would you worry about being perceived as shallow? Wouldn't you want to be seen as you really are? Or do you want to come across one way, when in reality you are not that way at all?
Just be yourself and you will find the kind of person you deserve.

you are wise hickerchick thank you i guess i will just have to stay away form the shallow girls and find me a women

Dude you will do fine.

I am a large woman. I appreciate when a guy states in his profile that he wants a fit woman, because then I won't waste my time. Don't say "no fatties" because that is rude. But you are certainly entitled to date whoever you are attracted to.

riddle solved by the goat

if they state something that just having it in the profile gets your back up, then bipass her.

*goat bows*

This is why my profile specifies nothing in what I'm looking for. Evidently in the past I was to picky and it didn't work. So now I look for someone that can hold my interest for a while without meeting them in person.

Wait, you have to be nice? You haven't watched enough George Carlin skits yet.

It's perfectly ok to state what you want in a mate.

Just no guarantees you will get that.

So the girl who only wants men 5'10" or more can ask for that...but she might end up alone a very long time because the taller men might not be interested in her.

True, and that is her choice. I likewise, won't settle for anyone who is not intelligent. I would rather be alone.

5'10 is a pretty tall order, but you failed to mention how tall she was. I'm 5'8 and dated someone once who was 5'4... it was kinda cute that I could rest my chin on the top of his head, but in all honesty, I'd prefer someone that can throw me over his shoulder if need be.

Actually I'd be surprised if you weren't talking about MY profile and exaggerating about the height requirement... because you looked at my profile today.

no guys wiff hairy belly buttons HA!

i dont know if it's stated in my profile or not, but i'm only 5 foot. So I like my guy to be tall... to reach things that i can't. It sounds shallow, and it's not a total requirement. just something i would like. and if it turns out i met a guy 5'1 and fell in love, i wouldn't think anything of it.

it's the same thing as a guy saying no chicks that are small busted or only girls with nice legs.

it doesnt mean you wouldn't date someone with those attributes, it just means you like certain attributes better.

I don't think it's shallow though to want someone taller.

I just think it's limiting when some women (not you) will put a height requirement that will cancel out 90% of the men on the site. Like when I saw some women put that they want 6'3" or more.

In the end I've learned that you want to pick the few physical requirements that mean the most to you, and leave the rest as "hopeful, but not required". It's all good as long as the profile is inviting to many to contact you.


Shallow to me is when one wants physical perfection, especially when they themselves aren't too perfect, but I wouldn't even complain about those people...just bear in mind how much they are limiting themselves and how chronically single they will remain.

shallow is selecting your partners based on physical traits rather than character traits.