BUT! there is a glimpse of hope.. there is this one guy.. hehe funny thing is he is on this site too.. and i like him alot right but we live far away from one another.. same state but like 2 1/2 hours away :( but is super cute and cuddly which is always a plus..

Chances are you've already met a few, you just aren't attracted to them... Those nice, respectable guys aren't going to be the ones that approach you. They are the ones that are usually too shy to say or do anything. Same advice kinda works for the guys... if you want a respectable trustworthy woman who is secure stop looking for them at bars, clubs, and frat parties. This is where you have to rationalize your emotions and look past initial attraction. Usually it's those that are impulsive that wind up with the wrong people.

Hate to admit it but you may have a point. Seems like we always want the ones we can't have, or that don't want us. The nice, respectable guy is easily overlooked because we are too busy looking at "Bad Boys".
I guess I've admitted to my problem, first step to change

Show me one, not counting yourself

And I wish I was 20 years younger.....

I agree with you and i gave up on all the bars and club (never been to a frat party ) and it is hard to meet people and a respectable guy on top of that. But reationalizing you emotions can only go so far if you are just not attracted to the nice guy. when you do come across that good guy if there is no attraction then you will always stay friends. I'm not saying that looks are everything they aren't but it is rare when attraction spontaneouly sparks. I

because they only exist when they are horny

I call that settling for less than you deserve!

I totally agree with you.

i need a good man in my life

They're out there, but women tend to say they are the boring nice guys.

Excitement, sparks, fireworks...those do not judge if it will be a solid relationship. Look for comfort, completion, and true intimacy.



I disagree, and what I say here is not aimed at you personally. I have no problem with a successful woman. The problem is that every woman I meet who "has it together" still follows the "marry up" mentality. So while I have a good job and my life together, I am unfortunately not the 6-figure doctor, lawyer, or corporate guy with an athletic body these very women want.

I will agree some guys are insecure and can't handle a woman who has her life together, but I also have seen many follow the illogic that their college degree and meager corporate job now entitles them to a wealthy male.



I don't agree here. I more see the decent males still follow the ideas of traditionalism. They go to a social gathering, see a woman and want some kind of signal of desire. Eye contact and a smile. When they get that then they approach. The playas are the ones who just approach anyone they find attractive, regardless if she wanted him to talk to her or not.

So women will go out, stay in their tight-knit packs, never give any guys any signals, and then go home and complain how no guys approach them.

Or she will take the playa's "numbers game" approach as courage while dismissing other guys as cowards (when she'll later get hurt by said playa), and then complain how she can't meet any decent guys.

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Please don't get me wrong, I'm not attacking women here, but when I see these usual complaints, I'll delve into the lives of these women and usually find out she either has a taste in her mouth for "bad boys" because she craves the excitement, and/or she's the type who never really lifts a finger to meet guys, and more takes on whoever will just come up and work through her walls of ice...which usually are the bad men.

I say this to any man or woman...you keep meeting bad people, then you have to change up your selection standards and ask yourself if all the "exciting" characteristics you want will really add up to a man or woman who will love you and be good to you....then also change up where you go and what you do. Like someone else said about getting out of the bars and clubs.

thought you had one