I have been dating an incredible guy for a little over 6 months now. We have been sexually intimate since the first week we were together because we both share the same ideas that sex does not have to be a big deal. We also have both come from long term relationships that ended with broken hearts.

We have had discussions about love before and agree that "love" is a word that is all to often thrown around by people when they really mean lust or infatuation. Neither one of us has bee in a hurry to get to the "in love" phase because it takes trust, deep committment, connection, and communication. Those things are not quick to develop and neither one of us want to get too emotionally attached if it isn't real.

Recently, we have begun to get very close. I have talked to him or texted him every day since we started our relationship. I have spent almost every weekend with him since December, and we are also starting to have "sleepovers" during the week when my school and work or his job aren't too demanding.

I enjoy every minute that I spend with him, and I almost never stop laughing when we're together. Although we are both opinionated and somewhat stubborn people, we have never had an argument. When we disagree about a topic we can have debates that stay lighthearted because neither one of us i trying to "convince" the other of anything. He is understanding, considerate, intelligent, sarcastic (so am I), sexy as hell, and the list goes on.

As everyone can probably tell... I'm falling for him hard. I want to give in completely, but I'm afraid to really open myself up emotionally and I have no idea how to approach "I love you" at this point. Does anyone have advice about how to allow yourself to let someone see your innermost feelings? It is incredibly difficult for me.

Also, I am afraid that maybe he will not be in the same place as me. He is so wonderful and I can tell that he wants to make me happy. I have also seen him looking at me in a way that maks me want to melt and makes me feel very cared for. I'm just not sure if the L word is on his mind, too. Based on our previous conversations, I also don't want to jump to "I love you" too fast for him. What should I do?

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Is there a Cliff Notes version I can read?

Tell him you love him. A wise and dear person told me, "It's better than saying 'You suck.' No?"

Just say it!!

you just have to be honest with him if its meant to be then it will be darlin. every relationship has to start with honest and integrity. if he just wants to be with u for some sex then he will move on when u tell him how u feel. it doesnt sound like he is that way though. if u have been together for six months and he doesnt have any feelings for u i would be really surprised.

maybe he has the same feelings for you TELL him

If somthing happened to him tommarow and you could never see him again would you regret not telling him,if so just do it!

I just blurt it out the first time it occurs to me to do so, and it's always been just fine. It sounds a lot like you two are in a standoff for who's going to say it first...I say let it rip. Saying how you feel to someone you're so close to can't be wrong.

if you do...then tell him.

Say it at dinner like this: could you , I love you , pass the salt!!

Heehee... That's great!

Sorry... I tend to be a bit long winded most of the time. That kinda was the Cliff Notes version.

Handcuff him to the bed, get him nekkid, and ride him like a beat-up old horse. If that ain't the best way to say you love him... there's probably another way.

Well... I've pretty much done that, at least the nekkid riding part. The main difference is that I'm usually the one handcuffed to the bed.