a guy I really love but can't give enough time to because I am in school is getting ready to date my best friend, how do I handle this..i told him when we met, i am in school mon thru thurs and do part time jobs on weekends to make ends meet..he is filthy rich..but nice. attentive. but he wants me fulltime and i want to finish school, done 12/08--cosmetology..he can't wait that long..i really dig him and i know the feeling is mutual, but he wants a girl to be there for him..i can't take this, it is just so hard on me,,,how could he/she do this to me?

what a best friend

Im sorry, when i was married, my now ex messed with my best friend, talk about putting a dagger in my back and turning it a few times.

First off...me thinks she isn't your friend my dear. And if he is going to date your friend.....then he is one to take another look at.

Why was it important to know he is sooo rich?

Kat

it sucks big time...

well besides being pretty good to me, the added attraction is he was well off...

believe me i am NOT a gold digger, but I really liked him, we had so much in common...

I know you don't want to hear this opinion, but I feel that if he loved you, he'd support your desire to finish school. He doesn't seem to be looking at the decision he's making with thoughts of the future, but more like thoughts of right now. If you get my drift.

if he'll drop ya quick for your best friend its better you find out now

Oh, honey! Money's not attractive, it's merely useful.

I know this, i have told him this so many times, that he should support me, but he says he can support me in other ways and I don't need to finish now that i have met him, i know this is a big red flag, but how could he date my friend?? this is what bugs me the most...and she is going!!!

There's nothing anyone can say that'll change the way you feel. I think if she KNOWS what's going on with you and him then you know she isn't a real friend. Personally, I wouldn't let her close to me again. If she'll burn you once... she might do it again.

He doesn't really love you if he wants to date her--if he wants to date her. He could be using her to force you into a decision. The one thing you don't need to do is crawl back. For 95% of guys, not calling or showing a desire to need them will bug them out. I would do that for a while. If you do it too long then he may just move on. Either way, if he dates her then you don't need either one.

I hope it works out for you.

Not a very good friend...and an even worse potential date. Your in the clear, simple really.

Sounds like he is more interested in having someone on his arm that being concerned with being supportive of you wanting to achieve your goals. He may turn out to be controlling if he would rather you not finish school. It would send of warning signals to me.

And your friend isn't a best friend if she is willing to date a guy she knows you really.

thanks chris for the good advice, will take it...

Oh, I see! I say beware of men who don't want you to have any life outside of them. The friend thing just reeks!

thank you all for your good advice, really, i'll go have a drink now...