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Topic: Curse or Gift?
jonny63's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:08 AM
Being forgiving has hurt me in so many different ways.
Is it something that is learned?
or does it come natural.

itsmetina's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:13 AM
you have to look deep inside yourself do you want the anger to live inside you just my thoughts

cdanny47's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:14 AM
:smile: I really think it is alittle of both,,,, Once you start it is e-z to get into a rut and find that it is better just to let it go and not fight about it???? does this make any since??flowerforyou

fun_flirty's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:14 AM
I think it comes natural like your personality. I know what you mean. I have a hard time staying mad at people and so some take that as a sign of weakness and think I can be walked on like a door mat. I'm really nice and forgiving, but I have my lines and once you cross them look out the volcano has exploded. Every once in a while I think some people just need to be put in there place no matter how much it might hurt you to do it.

darkowl1's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:15 AM
it's great wisdom that you are being given....you will find out why you went through it when someone goes through something similar, and you will relate to them, when nobody else can.

fun_flirty's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:15 AM
((DARKOWL))flowerforyou

darkowl1's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:17 AM

((DARKOWL))flowerforyou

fun!!! good to see you!!!flowerforyou flowerforyou :heart:

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Fri 04/25/08 12:17 AM
I had to learn it.......because the hate was literally killing me!!! The only way I found peace was forgiveness.....and it took a very long timeohwell Its almost selfish to forgive because it makes you feel better...happy

jonny63's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:18 AM

you have to look deep inside yourself do you want the anger to live inside you just my thoughts

See thats my point. I have no anger inside of me, but I feel its a curse because I live with frustration because others should forgive and can't.

Peccy's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:18 AM

I had to learn it.......because the hate was literally killing me!!! The only way I found peace was forgiveness.....and it took a very long timeohwell Its almost selfish to forgive because it makes you feel better...happy
almost?

fun_flirty's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:18 AM
I have a hard time being too nice. Does anyone else have this problem and if so, how do you get meaner in a nice way???lolhappy

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Fri 04/25/08 12:19 AM


I had to learn it.......because the hate was literally killing me!!! The only way I found peace was forgiveness.....and it took a very long timeohwell Its almost selfish to forgive because it makes you feel better...happy
almost?
WEll IS IT selfish or not? iM NOT too sure but if it makes a person feel better in the end is it not selfish or? Lets ask freud!!!laugh laugh

Peccy's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:19 AM


you have to look deep inside yourself do you want the anger to live inside you just my thoughts

See thats my point. I have no anger inside of me, but I feel its a curse because I live with frustration because others should forgive and can't.
that's when you gotta do 1 thing johhny, say %uck em

fun_flirty's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:21 AM
Freud? Oh hell Gypsy looks like I logged on just in time lol. I missed u guys lol. Even Peccy and his crazy questions!

Peccy's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:21 AM



I had to learn it.......because the hate was literally killing me!!! The only way I found peace was forgiveness.....and it took a very long timeohwell Its almost selfish to forgive because it makes you feel better...happy
almost?
WEll IS IT selfish or not? iM NOT too sure but if it makes a person feel better in the end is it not selfish or? Lets ask freud!!!laugh laugh
I did he said penis envy

DebbieJT's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:21 AM
i just get on with it, i have major reasons to hate some people, but i cant be bothered wasting my life thinking about them or what they did..one or two i could forgive..the others no..but im not going to dwell on it either

itsmetina's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:21 AM


you have to look deep inside yourself do you want the anger to live inside you just my thoughts

See thats my point. I have no anger inside of me, but I feel its a curse because I live with frustration because others should forgive and can't.
there are some things that you don't forgive but you let go.you can't base that on what others forgive you have to live with your decisions

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Fri 04/25/08 12:22 AM




I had to learn it.......because the hate was literally killing me!!! The only way I found peace was forgiveness.....and it took a very long timeohwell Its almost selfish to forgive because it makes you feel better...happy
almost?
WEll IS IT selfish or not? iM NOT too sure but if it makes a person feel better in the end is it not selfish or? Lets ask freud!!!laugh laugh
I did he said penis envy
personally Im thinking its toilet paper envy......but that could be a little Maslow...laugh

Peccy's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:23 AM





I had to learn it.......because the hate was literally killing me!!! The only way I found peace was forgiveness.....and it took a very long timeohwell Its almost selfish to forgive because it makes you feel better...happy
almost?
WEll IS IT selfish or not? iM NOT too sure but if it makes a person feel better in the end is it not selfish or? Lets ask freud!!!laugh laugh
I did he said penis envy
personally Im thinking its toilet paper envy......but that could be a little Maslow...laugh
Might be some Pavlov in there too, I heard a bell

darkowl1's photo
Fri 04/25/08 12:23 AM
Edited by darkowl1 on Fri 04/25/08 12:25 AM
you don't change your way, because it's your strength to be nice, that gives you your path...you will understand that the world needs people that can grow from these pains, and put them behind, but understand why, for every situation is different, and more complicated, ...we grow.....

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