OMG ((((Deb)))) I have never heard anything so hurtful in my life, I am crying!! How could anyone feel this way about thier own child?? I don't understand...I would never take back having my son nor would I want to if given the choice...I love being a mom and I love the little man I have raised and everyone else loves him too...Kids get on your nerves at times but that is what they are suppose to do, it is thier purpose as children!! You know my ex husband took my other two children away from me out of spite because I did not want to be with him anymore and then he disapeared. My daughter will be 14 in Sept and my son will be 13 in Jan, I have not talked to either of them since my daughter was 8!! I miss them everyday and there is not a day that goes by that I do not wish I could have done something different and I would have them today. I live with this everyday of my life and what is worse they have a brother they have never met!! I go on everyday for my son because he is all I have right now and I cherish everyday I have with him and I let him know everyday how much I love him. I love being a mother I think it is the most precious gift anyone can have and I hurt inside for the woman who can't have kids and want them so bad. Your cousin is selfish and she doesn't deserve to be a mom!! That little girl is going to grow up feeling unwanted and she will have emotional and mental issues because of her mom!! I know she is your cousin and you love her but I would be damned if I heard my sister or cousin talk about her child like that, she would get **SMACKED** on a regular basis till she woke the f*ck up and realized what a gift she posesses and what a blessing her daughter is!! THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADEL IS THE HAND THAT RULES THE WORLD!!!!

My kids are a Blessing to me!!!

She should never say those things in front of her child-
let alone think them... that is sooooooooo sad for that child.

i dont talk to her anymore. i couldnt put up seeing all this, made me ill, i did what i could then i had to move on, i did it for 7 years.

also please dont question me, this isnt about me, i did what i could, i even asked her if i could have her.

after seeing what i did, i can assure you 100 percent I DO NOT LOVE HER (my cousin)in the slightest

Not hating anyone just my view #1 there's ways to pervent having a child before having a abortion

The person in my own view must be heartless to have gone that many times to find out she and he must pay (And have a problem with it) stop using tax payer bucks for her own loss of self respect

that stuff burns me up should be 3 strikes and the cut both of each tubes up

i'm just leaving it at that ...

I just do not understand how the lady can have 3 abortions and still not learn about unwanted pregnancies.One contributer to this topic goes as far as suggesting that people with IQ less than 160 should not be "allowed to breed". I could rephrase this as follows: In general people that are not economically advantaged tend to have more time breed. Like the reference lady, some may not have the means to take responsibility of their actions. I read of two cases in my local newspaper in which a judge has forced a man to undergo vasectomy on account of fathering too many children and recently, they featured a lady who had started having children at 14. Now at 31 she just had her 12th child. SHE LOVES THEM BUT TAX PAYERS TAKE CARE OF HER CHILDREN. Further, she cant find jobs that pay well!!

Youve taken offense when none was meant, my input in this matter was not to question you or judge you for what you did or did not do. I was simply answering to the topic you posted. I can tell that this matter is very close to your heart. I hope that it can and will be resolved.

it is close to my heart, i helped bring that child up, i was one buying her clothes when her mother was just buying fags, i was the one who would have to remove her from a situation because if i didnt she would get smaked, i still love beth (not my cousin) to bits, shes my little angel, i was there when she needed me.

apparently she hasn't heard of methods of contraception?

Hi Deb, nice to see you again.

Can you lend any insight as to why your cousin chose abortion as a form of birth control rather than conventional means? Is birth control available at no cost as well?

Could she have given the child up for adoption?

I have never regretted having my children, though I did rethink the whole thing when they were teenagers.

birth control is free, she just didnt take it. all the abortions were off different dads. yes she could have gave her up for adoption but she didnt, i offered to have her child, but she said no. some how i think she enjoyed being a *****

also i would have to buy her daughter clothes and food, and i would take her out and take her somewhere nice to eat. basically her mother bought her nothing because she spent all her money on ciagrettes, this one riled me, her daughter had a temperature and she was poorly, and she bough cigerettes instead of some baby paracetomol, so i bought her some.

Yes I see that now and I do not blame you at all I wouldn't have any love for someone who treats thier child the way she does...I'm sorry Deb!!

im glad at least i was there for her for years, and i hope she remembers that.

Having Kids was a blessing and pleasure I adore and very proud of them,they are the foundation of my life...Having children saves your life in a way ,they make you more responsible , caring, Intelligent,respectful, honest and so forth...they have a profound effect on one life...My children has made me a better person...thats all I can say !!.

Oh ! hi by the way Debbie good to see you back on.

hi guy

Hi Debbie your post some interesting topics again..

you think???

oh! yeah! always one 's with such controversy