A crazy girl at a bar on Saturday peper sprayed her ex b/f, and I got caught in the cross fire, and had to go to the hospital, and today I had to go to make things right again...I'm fine now...now worries...She spent the weekend in jail For hitting about 10 people and sending 5 to the hospital.... Crazy girls....

Wow, sounds like a helluva bar!

About your brother:

My sister recently threw away (broke up) with a guy that we all thought was perfect for her. He was good to her (her past boyfriends haven't been), he was respectful of her (ditto), he had a job (not always the case), and he was well-liked and respected by her friends and family.

She, however, apparently didn't see it that way and broke up with Mr Right to date Mr Completely Wrong. No job, in and out of jail, no desire to do anything, talks bad to her, lazy, disrespectful....etc.

My sister is 34. 20 years ago, I'd have stepped in if someone was treating her that way. Nowadays, though, she's made it perfectly clear she doesn't want any outside interference (advice from friends or family), she just wants acceptance.

While it's difficult (especially for my mom) to see my sister in the relationship she's in, it IS, ultimately, HER relationship. If she's happy (and oddly enough, it seems she is), then more power to her.

I hope your brother finds happiness. I admire you as his sister. (=

J, you're awesome.

I love my brother and as I stated I wasn't fond of his wife, but after 28 years people grow on you, and the last time I had dinner with them (all together) was in January, and I actually had a nice time with her.

The new girl is very nice, and has been friends with both of them for awhile now, to my family christmas he brought both of them. So it is weird for me now to see them as a couple, almost like it was planned. By one or both parties.

Our family motto growing up was "Nobody abuses one of our own...but us" I want to help in some way...but I know deep down there is nothing for me to do about it...and it stinks.

Yeah, been there, done that. Just this past weekend, had to "suck it up" and put on a happy face for my sister and her boyfriend when they came to visit. Made sure anything valuable was locked and hidden away, but.... ah, kidding. See, I didn't tell HER that...

She left, I said thanks for coming by (meant it) and welcome anytime (I'd never turn family away), but it sucks cause the last thing I saw/heard was him saying to her, "You drive home, I'm taking a nap. Leave the radio off, and try not to disturb me.".

I did what I could do... I opened my scotch bottle, had a swish, and lit a cigar.

Sometimes we have to let them do stupid things no matter how hard it is. I learned that the hard way.