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Topic: I have a Question ?
SportsNut2007 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 817	Sat 04/19/08 12:28 PM
Seems like your not important enough to discuss her probs. with you. RUN! Okay, straight to you baby ! If the answer was that easy for you - running to someone else - why bother posting? Well I rather be hanging with a hot chich on a jet ski, then having this disscussion !

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Sat 04/19/08 12:29 PM
My point, exactly.

SportsNut2007 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 817	Sat 04/19/08 12:30 PM
My point, exactly. Sooooo, you have a jet ski ?

krazykitty323 Joined Sun 03/09/08 Posts: 1083	Sat 04/19/08 12:33 PM
a relationship is the hardest thing you'll ever do. don't give up so easily. Give her time and one day she will feel confortable enough to tell you what is bothering her.

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Sat 04/19/08 12:33 PM
My point, exactly. Sooooo, you have a jet ski ? I can't tell you incredibly flattered I am and how excited at the possibility of being the rebound for a guy who posts about his girlfriend's problems. Ah....chivalry is not dead.

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Sat 04/19/08 12:35 PM
I've been involved with a great woman for about 6 months ! Things can be amazing one minute, but suddenly she, for no reason at all has a mood swing. She won't talk to me, she's not angry at me, but other stuff mostly from her past, but she won't discuss it with me. She distance herself from me, and it's impossible for me to help her. I'm ready to let go, can anyone give a valid reason why I should not? if you love her stay and be loyal to her! i am not saying it is but i have had some expierience with what i am about to say. it might be that she is sick like bi-polar or manic depression and the doctors can test her and give her some medicine to help her with all that.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 04/19/08 12:37 PM
If YOU "FEEL" shes NOT worth getting through this and YOU are FEELING tired of GIVING? Then YOU might have ALREADY given HER up in your heart! If YOU love her, YOU "CAN'T give up until SHE gives up on YOU. Sounds to me like SHE isn't fully over a past relationship, or she feels SHE'S NOT ready to TRUST again YET.? If it was ME, I would say this. Honey I need to know whats troubling you in order to help understand whats wrong? If YOU don't feel YOU can trust me YET, You never WILL. I want US to be able to ALWAYS feel WE can talk to each other about ANYTHING? And SEE if THAT changes anything about her ability to be open with you? Thats MY BEST??? Hope it helps...Good luck.

codelockbox Joined Mon 12/31/07 Posts: 1237	Sat 04/19/08 12:38 PM
Try to sit down with her when she is not in a bad mood, and explain to her, have a heart to heart, that if she can not talk with you about her problems then she need to talk to someone else, a doctor or professional help. Tell her it hurting your relationship, tell her how much you care and you don't want to lose her.

No1sLove Joined Wed 04/16/08 Posts: 10342	Sat 04/19/08 12:39 PM
Maybe she's bothered by the sense she gets that you're ready to bolt.

HMontana Joined Thu 12/20/07 Posts: 5037	Sat 04/19/08 12:42 PM
Sportsnut...sorry. See, I was about to post a meaningful and thoughtful response, when I saw that post to jet ski girl. It kinda took the wind out of my sails, because I wasn't sure you were sincere about receiving input on your situation. Anyway...it looks like you've gotten some good advice here. Best wishes to you.

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Sat 04/19/08 12:44 PM
IF she is a relatively stable person, it is a compliment that she even lets you know she is feeling down. What she wants is for you to "drag" it out of her, if she is a strong woman it is hard for her to be weak. IF she is a crazy psycho-b*tch...run...she's bi-polar. bi-polar people are human also,so show her you care and suport her, dont run. thats if you love her and you want the relationship

zanne46 Joined Sun 07/01/07 Posts: 5610	Sat 04/19/08 12:44 PM
Don't let go! She need's to develope trust in you. That's hard to do especially when it's something you feel self doubht about, or, insecure about. It's too hard at time's. But you can make a stand about it. Tell her how important it is to you that she tell you. Tell her what will happen if she doesn't open up to you. to add to this..when she is not talking..tell her u are going to give her ..her space she needs..and u are going to go do errands..or do something u enjoy doing..activity..u could also be nice and askif she would like to join u..If she says nothing..or says no..then let her know u love her and u are here dor her..and you will be back to her when u are done with ur activity.. some woman just sometimes need their time to work things out on their own..quietly..unfortunately not all can articulate their needs and expectations of what they need u to do when they are in this funk.. Be gentle and loving , supportive..yet do for urself at the same time.. best of luck..hope all works out well for u both..

chocolatebomb1 Joined Sun 09/09/07 Posts: 1	Sat 04/19/08 12:45 PM
In life some time women do not know want is good for them I say let her go, if she is smart is would come back or is has some one else.

littleike Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 4325	Sat 04/19/08 12:49 PM
If YOU "FEEL" shes NOT worth getting through this and YOU are FEELING tired of GIVING? Then YOU might have ALREADY given HER up in your heart! If YOU love her, YOU "CAN'T give up until SHE gives up on YOU. Sounds to me like SHE isn't fully over a past relationship, or she feels SHE'S NOT ready to TRUST again YET.? If it was ME, I would say this. Honey I need to know whats troubling you in order to help understand whats wrong? If YOU don't feel YOU can trust me YET, You never WILL. I want US to be able to ALWAYS feel WE can talk to each other about ANYTHING? And SEE if THAT changes anything about her ability to be open with you? Thats MY BEST??? Hope it helps...Good luck. very good advice and right to the point

SportsNut2007 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 817	Sat 04/19/08 02:01 PM
My point, exactly. Sooooo, you have a jet ski ? I can't tell you incredibly flattered I am and how excited at the possibility of being the rebound for a guy who posts about his girlfriend's problems. Ah....chivalry is not dead. Don't be so picky !

SportsNut2007 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 817	Sat 04/19/08 02:04 PM
Don't let go! She need's to develope trust in you. That's hard to do especially when it's something you feel self doubht about, or, insecure about. It's too hard at time's. But you can make a stand about it. Tell her how important it is to you that she tell you. Tell her what will happen if she doesn't open up to you. to add to this..when she is not talking..tell her u are going to give her ..her space she needs..and u are going to go do errands..or do something u enjoy doing..activity..u could also be nice and askif she would like to join u..If she says nothing..or says no..then let her know u love her and u are here dor her..and you will be back to her when u are done with ur activity.. some woman just sometimes need their time to work things out on their own..quietly..unfortunately not all can articulate their needs and expectations of what they need u to do when they are in this funk.. Be gentle and loving , supportive..yet do for urself at the same time.. best of luck..hope all works out well for u both.. Wow, just reading this has me cranking up my car.

SportsNut2007 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 817	Sat 04/19/08 02:05 PM
In life some time women do not know want is good for them I say let her go, if she is smart is would come back or is has some one else. what ?

SportsNut2007 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 817	Sat 04/19/08 02:13 PM
She did mention she need some space, I gave it to her ! She has been calling, texting and sending emails, but I think we're done I really don't want to know what her issue are at this point.

Native_Grl39 Joined Sun 04/08/07 Posts: 5196	Sat 04/19/08 02:21 PM Edited by Native_Grl39 on Sat 04/19/08 02:30 PM
Well it's not very mature just to quit speaking and not give a reason...At least if there is something she is upset about you can talk about it and work it out...this way no...perhaps she is just not ready for a relationship yet...BUT thinks she is...Anyway...I would forget it...You can't be kept on the fence at her whim especially is she's isn't willing to give you a reason or to discuss it....

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Sat 04/19/08 02:22 PM
My point, exactly. Sooooo, you have a jet ski ? I can't tell you incredibly flattered I am and how excited at the possibility of being the rebound for a guy who posts about his girlfriend's problems. Ah....chivalry is not dead. And you gals thought us dudes forgot how to be gentlemen.