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Thanks for sharing that, IndnPrncs... I don't actually know if she has the intention of terminating the pregnancy at this time, but it's kind of assumed when you're going for the secondary testing of the amnio, isn't it? I think the scariest thing about a Down's kid is that although some of them live normal lives, they generally die much younger than "healthy" people... besides having the risk of retardation along with all the other features. Lots of them aren't able to have children either, because their reproductive parts don't fully grow... that would be terrible! You're welcome Etheral... Only your friend knows what she can handle... Honestly, I'd say "adoption" but I don't think any "mom" can carry a child and deliver then give it up.. It's a hard decision but it's her's and her's alone.. It is obvious you will be a good strong friend for her... Downs isn't then end of the world neither is not being able to reproduce but we can only do what we can do... I truly believe that God does not give us more than we can handle.. And what doesn't kill us makes us stronger no matter how bad it hurts.. That may contradict what I said above but I was 23 very younger and naive... I wish your friend luck and will pray for her... 
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Thanks for sharing that, IndnPrncs... I don't actually know if she has the intention of terminating the pregnancy at this time, but it's kind of assumed when you're going for the secondary testing of the amnio, isn't it? I think the scariest thing about a Down's kid is that although some of them live normal lives, they generally die much younger than "healthy" people... besides having the risk of retardation along with all the other features. Lots of them aren't able to have children either, because their reproductive parts don't fully grow... that would be terrible! "I don't actually know if she has the intention of terminating the pregnancy at this time, but it's kind of assumed when you're going for the secondary testing of the amnio, isn't it?" I don't believe that it necessarily means that one has the intention of terminating the pregnancy because they are getting the amnio. I had people assume that that was what I was doing too. The test is not given to determine termination. It is for educating the woman. It is for learning about the health of the child. When I received the amnio, I was also given the ultimate of ultrasounds. You could see the blood going thru the child's heart. The Dr.'s are looking to see if the child has any health problems. Some of the problems are repairable in vitro. |
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Thanks Indn,
and all of you for your opinions. More opinions are welcome, too, but I think I've got a clue what to tell her now. 
Have I mentioned how much I love JSH 
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no but we all feel the same.. that's why were here so much
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I was at high risk also. I had the amnio. There were no problems. But..I didn't have the pre. blood work. I remember being nervous when waiting for the results of the amnio. The test also shows if the child would have spina bifada. She's due in early October. She's been having a really tough time with this pregnancy (it'll be her 3rd child) and her morning sickness hasn't ended. She's been under a lot of stress, too. I think she realizes the difficulties of raising a special needs child and probably feels that she can't dedicate that kind of time and love to the child since she has to be the bread winner for 2 children already. Yes, that is stressful. Life would be more difficult with a child with Downs Syndrome. She won't know for sure what she'll do until she gets the test results. It's one thing to say what you are going to do but...your heart won't really know until they say the results. It's difficult to explain. I heard the results on the phone and received a follow-up letter. IF she were to find out that the chld has Downs, no matter what decisions she makes, she will need someone to listen to her and her moods and decisions changing often. Someone that will not judge her or force their own opinion on her. She is the one that will be living with the decision - whatever she decides.
(((Winx))) always kind and always wise...
Thank you, IndnPrnc.
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"I don't actually know if she has the intention of terminating the pregnancy at this time, but it's kind of assumed when you're going for the secondary testing of the amnio, isn't it?" I don't believe that it necessarily means that one has the intention of terminating the pregnancy because they are getting the amnio. I had people assume that that was what I was doing too. The test is not given to determine termination. It is for educating the woman. It is for learning about the health of the child. When I received the amnio, I was also given the ultimate of ultrasounds. You could see the blood going thru the child's heart. The Dr.'s are looking to see if the child has any health problems. Some of the problems are repairable in vitro. I wasn't necessarily assuming that, but giving room for it if the need comes up for me to talk to her about it. Comments she made sort of aimed in that direction, too, which is why I was concerned. I guess there will have to be some heavy duty prayer sessions between now and then. Thank you.
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you're welcome was just being honest... psst I'm not a jerk all the time....
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"I don't actually know if she has the intention of terminating the pregnancy at this time, but it's kind of assumed when you're going for the secondary testing of the amnio, isn't it?" I don't believe that it necessarily means that one has the intention of terminating the pregnancy because they are getting the amnio. I had people assume that that was what I was doing too. The test is not given to determine termination. It is for educating the woman. It is for learning about the health of the child. When I received the amnio, I was also given the ultimate of ultrasounds. You could see the blood going thru the child's heart. The Dr.'s are looking to see if the child has any health problems. Some of the problems are repairable in vitro. I wasn't necessarily assuming that, but giving room for it if the need comes up for me to talk to her about it. Comments she made sort of aimed in that direction, too, which is why I was concerned. I guess there will have to be some heavy duty prayer sessions between now and then. Thank you.
You're welcome. I wish the best for you and your friend.
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