So I found out that one of my friends had met a guy online (not this site), rushed into getting married. They got married not even 2 months ago. He already packed his stuff and moved out. Apparently because she wouldn't use the equity in her house she has lived in for years to pay off his credit card debt. She got to feeling like if she paid off his debt, he would leave soon after... looks like she was right.
Now she is pregnant, already had quit her job bc he was supposed have been supporting them. She has 4 other kids from a previous relationship. She is so sick from the pregnancy that she can't even get a job right now.
Just a warning to everyone before they jump into something head first without putting enough thought and time into a relationship. You can get taken advantage of... whether or not you meet someone online, in walmart, at a bar, wherever. Real relationships shouldn't be rushed. If someone really loves you, they won't try and force you into anything you aren't comfortable with. And when there are "red flags" (cause things like this ALWAYS have red flags) don't ignore them. Good luck everyone

preach it jill, preach it!!!!

my heart goes out to your friend..just goes to show you cant move too fast..lots of cons out there

Amen to that Jill, Sometimes thought you dont find out till many years later.....

It might get a lot worse. His creditors can come after her money to pay his debts.

oh I agree... I think it was all planned from the beginning to take her for everything she had and then split

you cannot warn people from stupidity. Sorry, but your friend is an idiot

oh, and yet another case where a prenup would have been AWESOME!

ooooh I know... she's actually my friend's sister but I'm friendly with her

Rob- even with a prenup... she's still left pregnant and broke with 4 other children. Granted the other 4 aren't his, and she pretty much dug her own whole... but its also said to see people getting taken advantage of in that way. She may not be the brightest one around but she didn't deserve that. She is a good person. A prenup wouldn't help her much in this case I'm afraid...

Wow that sucks. Thats why Im getting the IUD, good for five years and NO babies. Just in case...

good thinking

flip the coin and your friend was a man, that is what I am talking about. 5 friggen kids? How many different fathers?

whether he did or she did... no one deserves to be taken advantage of. hhhmmmm 2 or 3. lol I never said she was innocent. Like I said, she dug her own hole. She was very desperate for love, always has been and got suckered right in. He saw her coming from miles away...

I got it after my last one and I love it. Sorry about your friend but ya she should have waited. If she knows where to find him she can take him for Child Support at least. If he fails to pay on a court ordered support then he can go to jail

it takes two to tango. Nobody gets taken advantage of, they are mutually responsible. Nobody is a victim in this case, she is just a patsy. Then here you are warning the entire population not to be stupid. I don't believe anyone can be taken advantage of, sorry

why don't you believe anyone can be taken advantage of? I agree she should have seen the signs but some people really get "blinded" by love. Sometimes the stupid need to be warned...

the warning signs are always there, as she obviously seen some of them by her refusal to take a second. There were some things going on there that made her leary, yet she went forward anyway. There is no such thing as blinded by love, there is only seting aside common sense, and moving forward with something you kow isn't right anyway

like I said, the red flags were there... they always are in cases like this. All to often people choose to ignore them. I agree that she made a choice. I am not looking for sympathy for her as I don't have much for her either. I feel bad for the kids tho... they are caught in this.