It seems that in our society divorces are up, higher than they were in 70s,80s,etc. I know that in some abusive marriages divorce is needed. But it seems like celebrating 25th or 30th Wedding aniversaries is a thing of the past. My grandparents were married for 63 years. SO MY QUESTION......Do you think that thru the years we have lost the "til death do us part" motto? Is it just too easy to walk away from a frustration instead of trying to work it out? Do you think people marry for real love or because they are infactuated then when it wears off, they are miserable and divorce??? Just thought that these questions might pose for a good discussion. No answer is right or wrong...just curious about your take on this.....Teresa

I think people just give up to easy. They say marriage is the hardest thing you'll ever do

Well for me I managed 16 years before mine ended. I waited patiently for 9 months for her to decide on whether to work on it or not. But I needed to go forward with my life and decided that getting a divorce was the only option. So peacefully we went our seperated ways. I was willing to work on it and she was not. As they say it does take 2 to tango.

There are so many different reasons why people get divorced. I was married, very young, and my ex has really bad drug problems that I couldn't deal with.

90% of marriages in 2007 were people who met on the internet...
I personally think people get married for the wrong reasons..then realize that they settled out of convenience...

People give up way too easily I think...

Women have a lot more independance these days. We dont have to tolerate physical or verbal abuse. Nor do we have to stand by and let a man cheat on us. (NO MEN! I DONT MEAN ALL OF YOU!)And we can go to college, educate ourselves and support our family. Back in the day, women didnt have these options. Thats the difference I would say.

values and morrals have went straight out of the window. people seem to have no self control anymore mostly the younger generation. no respect for elders and no respect for thereselfs or just no respect period. this world is only going to get worse.

I think I married way to young. I was only 16 and I didn't realize that I made a bad choice. Divorce was not acceptable back in the day so some people stayed in the're miserable situations to save face. I wish I could've only been married one time. I want to be in love FOREVER, but it just didn't happen that way. I tried for 8 years to make it work, but bad stuff just kept happening to me and then,to my child so....that was it for me.

great answer angelface

i blame it on Oprah Winfrey and Dr Phil

i was living by that motto, just wasnt willing to actually go there...

I really like this answer.

~ good call JT--- I am sure they are very influential to most! LOL

thats a 2 way street men can be abuse by women it has happened to me more times than i can count. and all this era stuff has ruint america

90% ?? where did you get that info?
Take into consideration that many women work now and are not afraid to have a life on their own , while before it wasn't so easy for them to get out of a bad relationship.

Modern times, things change much faster.
We have to ability to make changes easier, with less social stigma.
We are not as tolerant of differences & want more individual control of our own lives.
Thus divorce is an easier answer to marital problems.

Better to be alone than wish you were!

Love to you all! Alone is not a bad thing... not to me.

This is so very true!

It is good to see someone thinks a bit. These days people seem to have hidden agendas for getting married and also hidden agendas to get divorced. That is my past experience. I am glad there is a thinker amongst us who actually thinks a bit deeper than the latest Mercedes or BMW or a 1zillion dollar house