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Topic: losing a friend
lalalove Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 2346	Thu 04/10/08 05:09 PM
your makingg this too big of a deal, were born alone, we die alone, no use messing up in the middle by THINKING you have any kind of friends, its just an act anyway Being a friend is better than having friends. not in all cases i actually agree with you jill298

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Thu 04/10/08 05:09 PM
be prepared to give yourself a lot of time..if this person was truly important to you truthfully you will never forget the friendship...you simply learn to live with the loss..

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 04/10/08 05:10 PM
be prepared to give yourself a lot of time..if this person was truly important to you truthfully you will never forget the friendship...you simply learn to live with the loss.. I agree... it is a loss but sometimes it just has to be done.

Monier Joined Sat 03/17/07 Posts: 3337	Thu 04/10/08 05:10 PM
Being a friend is better than having friends. not in all cases He cares deeply for his friend, which makes him very valuable as a friend. Open communication and hopefully they realize it.

VirginVirgo Joined Fri 01/11/08 Posts: 761	Thu 04/10/08 05:11 PM
i moved location and didnt tell .. so i had t start over

VirginVirgo Joined Fri 01/11/08 Posts: 761	Thu 04/10/08 05:12 PM
oh and now u tryna leave me? oh u chouldnt just tell me u didnt wanan be friends that kool fool .. i got chu . lol

James1234567 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 2589	Thu 04/10/08 05:13 PM
i moved location and didnt tell .. so i had t start over someone did that to me, and it hurt....

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 04/10/08 05:13 PM
Being a friend is better than having friends. not in all cases He cares deeply for his friend, which makes him very valuable as a friend. Open communication and hopefully they realize it. I cared for deeply for my friend as well. It hurt to end the friendship but it had to be done. I don't know the whole situation here but sometimes it's just to hard to be someone's friend. Sometimes they just take to much out of you and give nothing back. Friendships, like any relationship is a give and take. You can only give and give and give and never get anything back before it becomes to much.

brooke007 Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 5469	Thu 04/10/08 05:14 PM
Because of the situation and knowing its the best thing to do. how do you stop talking or being friends( better word distance yourself) with someone you truly love and care about. Thats tough..I did that last january with my best friend... i still miss talking with her but due to certain circumstances I thought it best we not hang out. Her kids were a little wild and uncontrolled, always cussing and hitting.. and ya know just a bad environment.... i just let her know what was on my mind and stopped talking to her.. it was tough though..

Jill298 Joined Fri 11/09/07 Posts: 16316	Thu 04/10/08 05:14 PM
i moved location and didnt tell .. so i had t start over yea that's kinda harsh

symbelmyne Joined Mon 01/14/08 Posts: 5356	Thu 04/10/08 05:14 PM
i moved location and didnt tell .. so i had t start over someone did that to me, and it hurt.... someone did that to me too and it hurt like hell....20 years later it still stings if I think about it..

James1234567 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 2589	Thu 04/10/08 05:15 PM
like I said, its not real anyway

1socialbutterfly Joined Mon 01/21/08 Posts: 222	Thu 04/10/08 05:18 PM
It all depends on what is going on in that relationship.

James1234567 Joined Sun 01/06/08 Posts: 2589	Thu 04/10/08 05:21 PM
yeah it depends on how bad you want to hurt someone

hikerchick Joined Sat 12/22/07 Posts: 13206	Thu 04/10/08 05:28 PM
your makingg this too big of a deal, were born alone, we die alone, no use messing up in the middle by THINKING you have any kind of friends, its just an act anyway get some help.

lalalove Joined Wed 10/03/07 Posts: 2346	Thu 04/10/08 05:32 PM
well thanks for everyones advice i apreciate it.

lil_bit Joined Fri 01/25/08 Posts: 1685	Thu 04/10/08 05:33 PM
Because of the situation and knowing its the best thing to do. how do you stop talking or being friends( better word distance yourself) with someone you truly love and care about. There are times when you must distance yourself when a friend is in a rough situation, but always remain available when they come back to you and request your advice. Going through a situation with my niece at the moment....has actually been going on since before she got married and then again when she had a child in an effort to keep the mariage together and now going through a divorce, but just can't seem to follow through with it.... ...personally, she needs to shat or get off the pot. But I am her Aunt and I will remain true...

Brenda_Darling Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 3696	Thu 04/10/08 05:35 PM
Because of the situation and knowing its the best thing to do. how do you stop talking or being friends( better word distance yourself) with someone you truly love and care about. I told him i needed space to figure out what I really wanted to do. i had spent too much time being there for everyone else and ingoring my number1.(Which is ME) and that I needed to get my head on striaght. and if i felt like i could talk to him again i had his number and i would get in touch.

Lily0923 Joined Sun 12/02/07 Posts: 20429	Thu 04/10/08 05:44 PM
My friend and I had to do this to another friend, we simply added links to her leash. We keep conversations to very topical subjects. We don't go places with her anymore. We don't answer when she calls and call her back when we know she is going to be busy.

Salemite Joined Fri 02/01/08 Posts: 170	Thu 04/10/08 06:00 PM
I don't get it. If it's just friendship, why do you have to end it? There's a person I've been friends with for over five years that lives a couple of thousand miles away. We yap through email or instant messenger in conversations that have taken years (The chief of which is an arguement over whether soup is or is not food. It is not.).