Slow thats the biggest difference between YOU and an abuser..you know
about espect giving it and getting it, you know that no human being is
property..you are a real man.

AGREED CHERUB, AGREED.

That's why you won't ever understand Slow.

DO YOU GUYS NEED A TROLL SIGN POSTED ON YOU???

THIS LADY IS ASKING FOR HELP HERE !!!!

WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU GUYS MAKING STUPID AZZ REMARKS LIKE
THAT???

YOU THINK YOUR HELPING HER???? NNOOTTT!!!

LIKE 45 PEOPLE ARE GOING TO GO BEAT ON A BLANKET!!! WTF!!!

IF IT WAS YOUR SISTER YOUR P*NK AZZ SHOULD OF BEAT HIM THE FIRST
TIME SHE WAS TOUCHED..

NOW STOP BEIN A F*CKTARD & EITHER HELP THE LADY OR GET OUT OF HER
THREAD!!
GLAD YOU THINK ITS HERE FOR YOUR ENTERTANMENT !!

GO PLAY WITH THE GATORS!!

you can protect yourself AND keep the house Foxy.. call the cops, have
him arrested, THEN, while he's in jail, go to the courthouse and get an
order of protection that states he is NOT allowed at the house unless
the police are there and change the locks.
Your husband might be a nice guy when he's sober, but even Hitler had
his human moments.

catchme all the ladies answered her. the next step is for her to make
the call. we can't do it for her.

Not the Lady's slow or you for sure (((((((((((((((H)))))))))))))))

You have to get him out of there so I would have to say have him
arrested again and this time don't let him back in:) I do hate when a
person thinks he can over power another person just because they can; if
the law can't keep him away from you this time hate to say it but then
you have to handle him. In order to save your own life and your five
kids just make him wish he were dead if it comes to the last results
though.

whewwwww sexy that is well said. and if all else fails ask her brothers
if she has any.

I agree catchme, I did get sidetracked, and I will apologize to Foxy, I
apologize.

I did answer her..and told her what to do. The police do not help. Going
to a shelter will, but she has to make the step to do so. Period.

I was in a sick marriage that I couldnt walk away from. the only
differnce, He smothered me with kindness!!
he spoiled me rotten, we drove truck so we were on the road alot.
that was great until we started loading to come into here, then he
would turn into this green monster! who was i going to see who had i
talked to. I could go into a room full of people for 10 min. & i had
screwed somebody! he was a sick piece of crap!! I had no respect for
him & I couldnt get on a plane & leave...... the only time he ever
laid a hand on me, I had already left him i was here at mom's & he put
my shirt over my face & tried to strangle me... all i was worried about
was my dad & brother were comin back & my nakid azz was showin.. I
kept pullin on it, then realize OMG!!
he cant look at me to do this, He means it!!
the worse part is for years after i left him i continued the mind
f*ck he would be so proud if he knew how well he had warped me... IF
YOUR NOT STRONG ENOUGH FOR YOURSELF, THEN OF YOUR KIDS!!! DO YOU WANT
TO WATCH YOUR GIRLS GO THRU THAT??? BECAUSE THEY WILL !!! BECAUSE
THATS WHAT THEY KNOW!!

It's all about your kids mama...do it for your children..because your
girls will get in the vicious cycle with you..they will.

and Catch...what I said in my first post here was what we all did to th
A*S*S who hit my sister,,,I WAS THERE TOO!!!
but you attacked me for trying to help???

that was very effective on him...we had 7 people taking turns...
while four more held him down,blindfolded...

as was th "Bed Party" in boot camp...we had 45 people here...

you judge me before you have walked in my shoes...

please read and understand...
don't just hump my leg if you don't get it,or agree with it...

you trying to abuse me?
or feed me to th gators???

were you ever beat black and blue,
knocked out for hours,
waking up on th living room floor,
just for throwing snowballs???

I was when I was 9...
and if I could have,,,I'd have fed him to th 'gators!!!

This is true only you foxylady can make the move that is right for you.
You are truly a brave woman to be putting with his BS for 14years hate
to say but as small as I am and the law couldn't kept away from me the
first time and he were there in bed with me I don't believe he would of
woken up the next morning:) But then I would have to get rid of the body
I shell not share any more of my thoughts .But your best bet is the law
or your brother. In other to keep you and your kids safe:)

SHE needs to get the calls in.. alot of times they need to come in &
help her get out.. if she has secluded herself

Please Foxy!! Ask for the help to come get you.. I can totally
understand if you havent gone out. that is a big step.

ASK FOR THE HELP!!! JUST THINK OF YOUR KIDS!!!
THINK OF WHAT THAT DRUNK IS GOIN TO START DOIN TO YOUR LIL GIRLS AS
THEY GET A LIL OLDER!!

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((H))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

FOXY YOU CAN TALK TO ME ANYTIME !! I'M ON THE WEST COAST. IF I CAN HELP
YOU IN ANY WAY CCP HAS MY # TOO! L

This lady is in real trouble!!!,
My advice to you is to get away as far as you can, but before have him
arrested, and figure out where your going to ho first
there are lots of agencies that are able to help you!!
I will so some research on your home town and email you
I realy feel for you girl, I know how bad it is to live that way, It has
not happened to me, but as a counselor I have seen many women with the
same issue, and they made it trough, because they got the help they
need, I know you can't do this alone, but you have to start the prosess,
by getting an order of protection, and having a plan to move as far away
from him as you can!! and with the support of some agencies you will be
able to do it!!! and remember you may need some counseling, because your
will be afected for long time and like I said, you have to be a strong
woman and make a very hard desition for your own sake!!!

Lady, I wish I had the magic words for you to make it all better.
But...the only thing I can say is the same as the others here listen to
them take there advice. Seek help from the women Shelters for Battered
Women. Just seek help period. I do know unless you break the cycle of
what is happening your kids will also contiune that cycle for it is the
life they have learned. You must take a step and proctect them and your
self. Material things as a house can be replaced but a life cannot be.
How do you know that if all these years he has done this to you that in
what form is he doing it to the kids when your not looking most likely
verbal there is no telling what he is telling them that you do not hear.
Yet they are too scared to tell you in fear what he will do to you. He
has successfully broke you down it is time that you take a stand and
pull yourself up and fight back not fiscal for that will only get you
beat harder but by help of others that know what they are dealing with
and know how to handle these things. I have never been hit in my life by
a man I thank God for that but I was in a realantionship with some
verbal abuse which he was never able to bring me down needless to say I
did walk away even as he was telling me I would never make it without
him WRONG thing to say to me that just made me try that much harder. But
I do plead with you to do the right thing and for the saftey of your
children and yourself GET OUT NOW don't let this man end up killing you
and possible get away with it and end up raising your children can you
image the hell he would put your daughters through if you think for one
moment he would not your wrong it happens every day proctect them and
GET OUT SEEK HELP NOW. MY heart goes out to you and I do wish you only
peace and love in your life. Please listen to the ones that have been
there and got out.

For Foxy

Pick yourself up of the floor gurl
You've got nothing to fear
He is nothing but a coward and a slug
This is not real love
Make up your mind
Take this time
Make the choice to live
Make yourself a life
Your children need you
Please don't make them beg
By walking away today
You will show your daughters that this is not the way to live
You will show your sons that this is no how women are to be treated
It takes courage and strength
You have it
Now just dig deep
Find it and you will start to live
It's not going to be easy
Nothing ever is
Know that no matter where you turn
There will be someone there
To give a helping hand
A shoulder to lean on
Just make that call
You said I was inside your head
I hope and pray you hear my words now
Just make the call
And Live.....

that was so sweet CCP!!!

I'll tell you what I would do, I would wait for him to passout, sew his
ass up in the bedsheets from head to toe, not with thread, with fishing
line. When I was done with that I would beat the hell out of him with a
rolling pin or skillet, make sure it was good enough that they pick him
up in an ambulance, and when he came too I would be gone.
One thing you have to ask yourself, when is he going to start on your
children, because he will, I promise you, been there as a child, ended
up shooting the fool to get him off of my sister.
Either that or just leave him, your safety and your children's safety
is at stake. He WILL go to far one of these nights and really hurt you
or worse your child. Find a shelter something, anywhere to get away
fromhim.
As for the fears, he has caused these in you, he has caused you to
loose what self dignity you had, it is time to stand up and do what you
need for you and your kids.
Kerry

Foxy, you are a mother....you are strong, you are fearless, and you can
look the world in the eyes, and walk with your head held high...you have
to, you're a mother.

think about your kids, your daughters see how you are, they see your
fear, your insecurities, your uncertainty, your indecisivness. your sons
see it too, they also see his power, his control over you. think about
"kids" for a sec. monkey see, monkey do...they're learning how to be
like you, how to be like him, what roles they think they're sposed to be
playing when they get older...you're teaching them how "things are
sposed to be" by staying there.

...now look inside yourself and find the power to walk away from him

...i wrote this poem for myself....it was my pep talk to myself so i
could leave the ass...your hubs sounds alot like the ass....good luck
Foxy, i wish nothing but the best for you and your kids

~Moving On~

Moving on,
After all the hurt,
Let nothing stop me,
Dust off the dirt.

Lifting up;
Spirits that are down,
Put a bright smile on,
Throw out the frown.

Look ahead;
Wipe dry all my tears,
Take deep cleansing breaths,
Push down my fears.

Baby steps;
That's more than enough,
Go slowly at first,
It's not so tough.

Day by day;
One night at a time,
The steps that I take,
When moving mine.