I think its kindof an illusion but people seem to feel better with more views. It may mean only that they read every profile within a 5 mile radius of them etc. May have nothing to do with whether or not youre being considered.

I think using the forums is the best bet on this particular site. That way you may get views from people who may truly be interested in knowing more about you. People become attracted to the personality sometimes.



when I quoted her as saying "perfect" I mean he was her view of "up to snuff" in the chemistry area, so for her, she saw it as a worthwhile long-lasting relationship. I wouldn't care if I didn't see plenty of these sorts of cases happening where its absolutely hypocritical.

lol you have no clue how much I've been dwelling on that lately.

as for whether or not I should "stop" or "go" with tickling, again, its not the element of bothering people that is any issue now.

Whatever reason she offered up as not wanting to date, you just have to accept. I would not recommend 'convincing' someone to date you or offering logic.
Sounds like she's not interested in trusting a man just now. Or at least needs time. Its possible that, over time, she may get to know you and become wildly attracted to who you are and how you look. Prolly not so much if you dont respect her feelings tho. If you cant respect her, like, cuz she makes no sense to you, then I would just move on and not associate.

Cool. Blogging is a great way to get your persona out there.

I would not rely on 'viewed me' files as potentials. All that means is someone clicked, and does not imply interest or non interest.

You seem like a really nice guy. Truly. I would stop the tickling bit. A social worker chum told me that tickling can be actually abusive (?)...I dont get it too much, but thats what she said. Something to do with control and boundaries? I tickled my sister constantly as a kid. Go figure.

Anyhoo, in my experience, musicians often watch their friends move on, because music was more of a fun hobby to them, and once they got their degree in accounting or some such, they left and got on with their futures that way.

If you dont put love first, you wont yeild a long term type relationship. Ive seen lots of musicians make this mistake with their wonderful girlfriends/wives, thinking, "My music has to come first this year"...surprise, bye bye girlfriend.

These are just commonalities Ive seen, as I have been around musicians most of my life (Dad was/is a musician).

On the other hand, regardless of what you do, many of us cannot find our match.


The idea is to find the right one, not how long you can make it last. I wouldnt worry too much if I were you. I think youre doin better than you give yourself credit for.

Why the hell are men so nervous when you do go meet them? I mean for God's sake you are on here to meet women. The one guy I met for a "Meet and Greet" says: "I am so nervous I don't even know if I can eat in front of you"! Give me a break. I had to pat him on the shoulder and tell him to relax while I went to the ladies room. I was like hey - I am down to earth and just be yourself. We did make it through the meal; however, didn't meet again.

Don't worry, 40 will be here soon enough and at that point you won't give damn!

Welcome.

It is hard to comment with so little information. I can say this ...

Relationships don't just last. They are created in every moment. They are nurtured. They require care, attention, growth.

There are three entities in any relationship. There is you ... there is your partner and there is this third party that is your relationship together. To be successful all three must grow and develop. If you grow and your partner doesn't, you'll grow apart. If your partner grows and you don't, you'll grow apart. If you both grow but don't also grow the relationship, you will grow apart.

People always say relationships are a lot of work. I don't agree. I think they just require compassion, care, growth, nurturing, creativity ... those things that make us delightfully human anyway.

Be authentically who you are. Love from the core of your being. And be the love you wish to create in the world.

All the best to you.