All of you bring great and valid points to the table. Thanks for posting, talking makes it easier. Primitive 316 seems to know best where I'm coming from. My wife and I were married for almost 9 years. 8 of those with her being addicted to pain killers. She still is.
German, first I'd like to thank you for your service and sacrifice. Its not right for you to be in the situation you're in.
I should have done something about my situation long ago. But I was too stubborn, thought I could fix it. Now i know I can't. I understand the ladies points and I agree. Its hard, BC I want to find what I've been missing for years.
My kids are most important, and I can be on my own until the time is right.

Hello minglers! I have come to the end of an almost nine year marriage
I knew it was over many years ago but, I pushed through like the stubborn man I am. I can fix anything, except for my marriage. I hope to hear from others like me, that have been alone even while married and just want someone of the opposite sex to talk to. All our welcome, but no carnies. They freak me out.