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Sigh? Why do they do this?
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Well, I think the marriage sitution involves a vow which makes it different than robbing a bank. Basically it joins two people, until or unless THEY decide otherwise. The promise you speak of is no less broken by a document of divorce and involves no less weakness. For me, once two people are joined in marriage, it is THEIR decision(documented or not) whether to stay together and once they agree to no longer live as husband and wife,,they lose no integrity by moving on ... I agree that one should hold off dating until divorce is final( I am adhering to that belief as we type) but I dont think it makes one horrible if they happen to move on emotionally before their finances or their time allows them to get a document of divorce. By the way, robbing a bank involves dishonesty because it is taking something without the owners approval so I would not consider that an act of integrity. I used the robbing a bank example only to try to express my point, I feel personally that most definitely an act lacking in integrity. Oh absolutely someone can have a change of feelings while still married. I think we are both in agreement that divorce should be final. I disagree with divorce at all, but that's because of my "one mate in my life time" thing. If I blow it with my mate I will not see out another, not ever. Marriage and it's termination Is indeed their choice, which is why I don't truly go on a warpath. However there is something to be said about shameful behavior. I don't know the whole story, but neither do you. This man could be the only one in his relationship how has any idea that a divorce is coming. As for the vows of Marriage, I don't know their vows, but I know traditionally it says "til death do you part" , not "Til you grow tired of each other do you part". |
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I'm less picky than most I figure, but that sounds like a decent frame for how to keep a man happy.
For me, rule #2 deserves a note. Be supportive, but don't be afraid to express a dissenting opinion. I wouldn't want someone just agreeing with me all the time and letting me make a horribly bad decision. Rule 5 is nice but not entirely necessary. It'd be good not to let yourself got just because you have a man and can though. Rule 4? I'm used to doing the cooking, but if you really want to, i won't stop you. The rest seems fine by me. |
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Mine is simply this and I hope to have it happen this time...
2010 will be the "Year of the Fox". I will find my one and only this year. I will find her and will prove myself worthy of her. |
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Topic:
Sigh? Why do they do this?
Edited by
joshyfox
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Sun 12/27/09 02:47 PM
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I appreciate the respect. IT is all in perspective. I feel integrity lies in honesty, if noone is being lied to, no integrity is lost. So, two people who have agreed to go their seperate ways(without the legal paperwork to document it) , in my opinion, still have integrity when they move on to new partners. Ah I see, so if someone robs a bank, but says they are going to, integrity is still intact because nobody was lied to? I'm sorry if I disagree with your logic. I feel If someone is married and dating while still married, even if it is out in the open, is still dishonest because it is breaking the vow of loyalty and commitment of marriage itself. A promise was made and until the man is ACTUALLY divorced, he should hold off before pursuing another. It breaks the promise, lies to spouse, and shows weakness of character. Keep this in mind, if he is willing to do this yet still being married, what's to keep him from doing the same to you? |
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Sigh? Why do they do this?
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It doesnt make him horrible, One never knows. I respect the decision not to date married people, I hold the same philosophy at this point in my life. However there are extenuating circumstances that leave people still married but not together. My first husband and I split up in 1995, moved to different residences, lived seperate lives, but we didnt have the money or the motivation to deal with the courts. WE werent officially 'divorced' until 2004 when I was asked for my hand in marriage by someone. My parents split in 1994 but continued to live in the same house for three years for financial reasons.... there are all types of gray areas that sincerely honest people find themself in that cause the 'married, but available ' status. This is true, I perhaps jumped the gun with my judgment. I usually try not to judge anyone, but matters concerning marriage are ones that are particularly touchy for me. I take such vows seriously and often look at those who do not as wretched people. You are right though, I do not know the situation. |
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Hey everyone.
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Sigh? Why do they do this?
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Disgraceful, disgusting slime pile! It's men like that who make me look bad. I hope he's happy, because the reason it's hard for me to find a girl...
... probably... ...I don't know... ...He's still horrible. |
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You know you're really bored if you make a threat called "You know you're really bored when" ... or post to said thread come to think of it.
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Well at least he didn't say "it could've been worse!" because it would've gotten worse.
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Nice Guy Vs. --
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Wow... so glad I'm not a "Nice Guy". Kind and compassionate, but I'm not a whiny wuss about everything.
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Stop touching me!
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*Points to Totage*
Can't Touch This! Do do do do do do do do... |
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Nice Guy Vs. --
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Present company included, I'm sure.
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Nice Guy Vs. --
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Depends, is the reptilian Alien ALSO a nice guy?
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Next Line Game
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Ok, I'm going to try this. I am going to "sing" a line of a song and the next person to post sings the next line of the song and this continues. Let's see if we have the patience to actually finish a song!
Today's song is "Come Sail Away" By: Styx I'm Sailing Away, set an open course for the virgin sea... |
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Free To A Good Home - Is Housebroken And Good With Children
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Come on In - part 88
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Got anything for a Faceless Detective? :P
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People look at me confused when I talk about my true love I've never met, my code of honor, and my hero's geas (sacred quest) to seek out my love and be the best I can be for her.
Maybe I'm just weird, I don't know. |
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Soulmate
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I believe in a soulmate, but it is possible that it is not exclusive and there are in fact several "soulmates" out there for someone to find even one.
Sadly it's a word that is misused to often, like the word hero. I know of several men who have claimed to be someone's soulmate when they meant "I will say anything to get with you!" But yes, I do believe in a soulmate, my one and only true love. I am loyal to her now and forever. Weird considering I never even met her yet, no? |
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Why do all....
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Yes, EXACTLY like that!
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Why do all....
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Why is everyone on this Site a Ninja?!
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