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Fri 05/01/15 03:52 AM
my the the Lord give you streagh be bless

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Fri 05/01/15 03:47 AM
hi.. i gonna keep you in my private prayer.. lets trust to almight God in Jusus name

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Sun 12/21/14 05:27 AM



I do send a first message .. if I'm interested

I am communicating with 2 men at the mo, one of which I sent the first message to .. because he interested me :)

As for the chasing.. I have it from various sources online and in books that men need to know that you're interested in them. If you don't let them know one way or another, 95% of men out there won't initiate contact. So maybe it works the same online?

Sending the first message as a woman doesn't mean there's no more chasing to be done!


You and a few other certainly understood what the topic of this thread is about.

It is not a topic one can generalize without writing a book about, to understand the micro aspects of men and women obviously.

I believe your source of info was relatively correct in men need to know a woman has interest. That is the point of this threat, shyness in both men and women. In a different thread another member mentioned relationships with people one grews up with each other lasted longer. As we age that is a very important factor it seems. How do people develop trust, understanding if peole do not start somewhere. Why are people exhibiting similar behaviour online as people would, face to face.

To understand the reluctance in writing an introductory letter, but then it can be taken further to understand, why one responses and how they respond.

The thread is to have the members open up about writing to a person of interest and responding (even though responding was not meantioned in the OP).

I believe online dating is just as difficult as it is face to face. We have thousands of profiles to read. We send introductory letters and some will respond. Some will shy away from both sending an introductory letter, or sending a response. The forum does brake this barrier, although more times than one can count a person will not send a letter just because you viewed their profile.

This thread is not about the basic profile of like or dislike. Wants or not want. If there is a small interest, why not try and develop a friendship and see if there is a greater interest beyond friendship. Sometime we communicate merely on a friendship level from the start and it wil never change.

The forums do help, but mostly for Americans. The chances of two Germans, Dutch, Austrian or whatever to meet on the forums are slim at best.

Then it comes to the software a dating-site offers: automatic 'smart matches', matches based on what you are looking for, and the option to actively search with the possibility to set a lot of parameters (height, ethnicity, body type, education etc etc). Many sites don't offer these search parameters, or very limited number.

Don't know if this still relates to the OP, but what does help if you're searching, is trying new dating-sites on a regular basis. The trendy sites change, the one that was hip last year, is for 'losers' now or as good as 'dead', so keep up to speed with what site is 'hot' at the mo. It's a dynamic thing.
Also, when you're a new member, your profile comes up on top and you get a lot of ppl looking at you and approaching you. And for you a chance to get proactive and approach ppl yourself. Sticking to the same dating-site for yonks doesn't work. You'll be on page 45,000, no one will find you anymore, unless you pay to be put on top again (sod that!).
Furthermore, new dating-sites often have more or new options and gadgets that make it easier to find the type of person you're looking for.

So when you're serious about finding dates or a partner, go on a new site, register, and spend a lot of time on it the first week, cos that's when you're still hot and up top. Use that time well!!, approach people you like, many of them!! If you don't use that first week, you've lost the edge of being on top and wasted one heck of an opportunity to get in touch with MANY people!! (and lots of them will disappear cos you will find out you don't really like them that much).
So if you're not really ready or in the mood to be proactive, don't become a member of a new site just yet. Wait till you got the mojo and make it work for you!

And yes, women should send first messages too, men are often a bit awkward or shy when they're not sure you like them. Just like us, they don't like to take the risk of being rejected.
And for men, I'd like to say, if you're going to approach a woman, at least send a (decent) message, not some stupid wink or nudge or whatever. So lame.. if you don't have the baws to communicate, don't bother :tongue:
I NEVER reply when someone sends me a wink, ever. Lame ..


* Hopes Beach isn't gonna read here, more than 3 lines, he's gonna go mental, lol


Even you ladies when we send to you a greeting massage you are not reply'. Real that is not good.. for i can say hi.. to you as my first approch but you refusse

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Sun 12/21/14 05:24 AM



I do send a first message .. if I'm interested

I am communicating with 2 men at the mo, one of which I sent the first message to .. because he interested me :)

As for the chasing.. I have it from various sources online and in books that men need to know that you're interested in them. If you don't let them know one way or another, 95% of men out there won't initiate contact. So maybe it works the same online?

Sending the first message as a woman doesn't mean there's no more chasing to be done!


You and a few other certainly understood what the topic of this thread is about.

It is not a topic one can generalize without writing a book about, to understand the micro aspects of men and women obviously.

I believe your source of info was relatively correct in men need to know a woman has interest. That is the point of this threat, shyness in both men and women. In a different thread another member mentioned relationships with people one grews up with each other lasted longer. As we age that is a very important factor it seems. How do people develop trust, understanding if peole do not start somewhere. Why are people exhibiting similar behaviour online as people would, face to face.

To understand the reluctance in writing an introductory letter, but then it can be taken further to understand, why one responses and how they respond.

The thread is to have the members open up about writing to a person of interest and responding (even though responding was not meantioned in the OP).

I believe online dating is just as difficult as it is face to face. We have thousands of profiles to read. We send introductory letters and some will respond. Some will shy away from both sending an introductory letter, or sending a response. The forum does brake this barrier, although more times than one can count a person will not send a letter just because you viewed their profile.

This thread is not about the basic profile of like or dislike. Wants or not want. If there is a small interest, why not try and develop a friendship and see if there is a greater interest beyond friendship. Sometime we communicate merely on a friendship level from the start and it wil never change.

The forums do help, but mostly for Americans. The chances of two Germans, Dutch, Austrian or whatever to meet on the forums are slim at best.

Then it comes to the software a dating-site offers: automatic 'smart matches', matches based on what you are looking for, and the option to actively search with the possibility to set a lot of parameters (height, ethnicity, body type, education etc etc). Many sites don't offer these search parameters, or very limited number.

Don't know if this still relates to the OP, but what does help if you're searching, is trying new dating-sites on a regular basis. The trendy sites change, the one that was hip last year, is for 'losers' now or as good as 'dead', so keep up to speed with what site is 'hot' at the mo. It's a dynamic thing.
Also, when you're a new member, your profile comes up on top and you get a lot of ppl looking at you and approaching you. And for you a chance to get proactive and approach ppl yourself. Sticking to the same dating-site for yonks doesn't work. You'll be on page 45,000, no one will find you anymore, unless you pay to be put on top again (sod that!).
Furthermore, new dating-sites often have more or new options and gadgets that make it easier to find the type of person you're looking for.

So when you're serious about finding dates or a partner, go on a new site, register, and spend a lot of time on it the first week, cos that's when you're still hot and up top. Use that time well!!, approach people you like, many of them!! If you don't use that first week, you've lost the edge of being on top and wasted one heck of an opportunity to get in touch with MANY people!! (and lots of them will disappear cos you will find out you don't really like them that much).
So if you're not really ready or in the mood to be proactive, don't become a member of a new site just yet. Wait till you got the mojo and make it work for you!

And yes, women should send first messages too, men are often a bit awkward or shy when they're not sure you like them. Just like us, they don't like to take the risk of being rejected.
And for men, I'd like to say, if you're going to approach a woman, at least send a (decent) message, not some stupid wink or nudge or whatever. So lame.. if you don't have the baws to communicate, don't bother :tongue:
I NEVER reply when someone sends me a wink, ever. Lame ..


* Hopes Beach isn't gonna read here, more than 3 lines, he's gonna go mental, lol

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Sun 12/21/14 04:30 AM
Hi everyone,i request anyone to keep in prayer the children support in tanzania so that God to give more sponsor to help the need children. Thanks..

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Sun 12/21/14 04:25 AM
Am asking,if you remamber your ex,is it true that even he/she is remambering you and think about you??!!

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Sun 12/21/14 04:07 AM
Old women they know how to care alse young man we are more hot on bed that is why old women like young and they feel young also..

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