I would think it's human nature for any 30's + single guy to be looking for a partner that they are comfortable with and have a real chance at something much deeper. I also think most of us realize that is best case scenario and wishful thinking. While striving for it as the ultimate goal we will settle for less at any moment and fulfill our sinful little needs whenever the chance comes along. imho

I don't think you will have a hard time finding whatever it is that you want. Seeing how your not afraid to ask the important questions. Good Luck!

Hi and welcome. I'm also a newbie. Best of luck right.