dreamerana wrote:
"the couple of times I have met someone from here I asked them for their pic. and forwarded it to 3 people im close with.
I agreed to meet with that person at a public place and told my same friends where I would be.
I also send a pic of me in the clothes I am wearing that day.
just a few things to be on the safe side."
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Great advice!

If you asked people in this video how they feel about looks, I bet you over 90% would tell you love is more important.

Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XuxOrCoYnV0

4Deeds wrote:"I haven't been single for very long. However, for a huge part of my 22 year relationship with my ex-husband I felt alone and like a single mom. Now, I've been on my own for just 5 months, and everything about it is hard. I've got a lot of learning about my self to do. Maybe people end up being on their. Own for long periods of time or short periods of time because there is more to learn. I like to believe that there's is someone for everyone. If you haven't found them yet, it. Is because God's is still working on them before they can be presented to you. When the time is right it will happen. In the mean time, the wait is hard!"
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I have become a widow after more than 20 years of marriage. We didn't have children, so I am single with no kids. Just like you I am in a learning process too. :- )

Once things change we have to adjust to a new situation and learn from an experience. I have learned that I am stronger than I thought. I can live on my own and do not need anyone to take care of me.

Help is always appreciated, but I am not used to asking for it unless I previously tried everything I could do to make things work on my own. It may take me more time and effort to get things done that way, but it is rewarding to know that I could do it and DID IT. It doesn't make a difference if it is about fixing something or solving some issue.

As the matter of fact, I was the one caring for others all my life. It wasnn't always easy, especially after my late husband's cancer surgery. Life has drastically changed and put me to a test. It was not the first time that I faced cancer in my family, but experience didn't make it any easier.

Well, that's behind me now. I hope that at least s bit less turbulent time is ahead, but, again, it's beyond me. What is meant to be is meant to be. I am still in a learning process, but back on my feet and ready to move on.

I like using both my hands and my "little gray cells". It took some of my friends a long time to accept that. I actually enjoy painting and light renovating on my own and really do not need any help, but it is nice to work together because one always learns something new. I also enjoy fixing things using my own tool.

Some of my friends wanted to see it to believe it. Than they asked to borrow some tools! Well, that's something I learned not to do. It is the same as borrowing the books. Most people forget to return them, so one loses both a book and a friend. That is too bad. So, I'd rather buy a book or give it away than borrow it. Thanks God for books in .pdf and other formats! They are easy to share and there is no need to worry about getting them back. With tools it is completely different. I will bring them along and help with a project.

This turned out to be a long post. LOL

In conclusion: A whole life is a learning process and it ends with a last breath. Living alone was not easy in the beginning, but I am used to it now. I would rather be alone than with just about anyone. I have met many people who are together only because of a mortgage and kids and felt sorry for them. It is better to be alone than lonely next to the person you are living with. If a soul-mate is out there somewhere perhaps our paths shall cross. Meanwhile I will live, learn and laugh because life is a miracle ours to discover.

It probably felt like this. : -)

<img src="http://reactiongifs.me/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/people-looking-at-me-on-the-bus-the-Graduate.gif">

Wow! Those are special crackers indeed. First you read them, than you eat them. I want some of those crackers too! :-p

You could be right, but those few REAL people are mostly too far or not willing to establish a meaningful communication. Maybe they have been burnt too many times or they just avoid a possible rejection. If that's the case, why are they wasting their and other people's time here?
An ego and pride might be the other reasons for just watching and not reaching out. Maybe that is why they won't approach others. It is easier and less painful for an ego to avoid a possibility of rejection and wait for someone else to make the first move.

LOL :-D

Just reading and listening to the music
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQ56ho5gZxE

Thumb up!

There is no partnership in business or in life without trust. If there is no trust it doesn't last too long and it wasn't worth it to begin with. That's how I feel about it.

My imagination is working overtime today, so I'd better not tell anyone about the picture that came to my mind after reading Soufie's hair shirt advice LOL You don't want to know LOL :-D

It sounds familiar.
Writer's block in my case was usually the sign that I either needed more time for things to settle down and crystalize or that I was in a rough period with a lot of pressure due to events or deadlines I had to meet.
Perhaps you just need more time?
It might also be about that someone or something that needs to get into the picture to give you that initial spark to start you toughs flowing again.
When I worked as a journalist that was an occasional problem, but there is an oldest trick from the book called "a little black book"LOL Not with names and phone numbers, but with ideas that would often come at the time when I had to focus at too many things at hands, so I just wrote them down to get back at them when the busy schedule finally allows it.
Hope this helps. : - )

I don't have much experience in meeting people online this way (on a dating site), but that little experience I have is not pleasant at all. It seems to me that I am not the only one who had to learn how to block those looking for a free ride into Canada. LOL There is also a lot of married or just bored men looking for an erotic adventure.
Does anyone read profile before sending messages?
It would be nice if we could block those with no photos or with empty profiles from browsing regular profiles of people who are not into games. It would be even better if profiles were arranged by countries, regions and cities, to make search easier, wouldn't it?

That is interesting. Thanks for sharing it!
I had a profile on another site and taught that unpleasant experience I had there was related to that site, but now I realise it is not about any specific site. People with all kinds of intentions play games all over the Net. I should have been less naive, but how could I have known? This way of meeting people is still new to me and it is a good thing that we can exchange experiences here.
Being cautious does not hurt.
I wonder why so many men from USA, India and Africa contact me on chat as soon as I turn it on. My profile clearly states that I would like to find that special someone from Hamilton, Ontario, CANADA.
Do people even read profiles (section about and below) before saying hi from somewhere miles away???

Thanks for an info. I haven't heard of Tin Eye before. You don't even need to install any app. unless you want to, since they make it possible to check the photos online from the site: https://www.tineye.com/