So cruel, but I love it!

I know what you mean navygirl
Perhaps the one who can leave things just as they are and where they belong shall cross your path. I wish you to find him.

fleta_n_mach being protective of your own space is as normal as having a firewall on your computer.
Women are wired a bit differently than man. That's also true. Sometimes one has to literally learn to speak their language in order to be heard loud and clear. Most men prefer things simply put in very few words.

Difference between "that was great, let's do it again" and "never again" can be easily defined:

if 1= and >
than 1+1=2{}

2+1= if =++1

than 2+1=1+2{}


if =++

or =++


than 2+1=1



"Never again" may become "single again". Actually two, three or even four singles, depending on a situation of those involved.

and than some!

Oh... what a way to ... put it!

Routine is a good thing that helps me keep in a good shape. I wouldn't change that.
I can also be flexible if need be, but that doesn't depend solely on me. You can't drive slowly in a fast lane. So it depends on how much time I have at disposal.
NOW I have more time than I used to have earlier in life, so I enjoy moving at a slower pace.

As a former war reporter I can make a safe assumption that we had some similar experiences that are better left in the past and not shared with a person who wouldn't be able to approach them without judgemental attitude and prejudices.

An extent of opening up is important in any relationship. It takes time to get to know someone and feel comfortable to talk about some things from our pasts.

Although I have changed career twenty years ago, some people still make false assumptions based on Hollywood movies and see me some kind of an exotic species.

Some of my acquaintances back from that time, women who served in the forces, have been judged for carrying the uniform and even called names I am not going to quote here.

So, yes, you are right. Nobody can be an opened book to everyone.

Add each other on your friends lists first and than activate the filters.

Being new to the dating world all I have for now is questions, questions, questions... many of them!
I ask myself some of those questions, so I am the only one who can find answers, but other questions would have to be answered to me by the other side in order to know who and what I am dealing with.

Now I am thinking about the difference between an honour and bravery.

Brave ones defend themselves from others. Honour demands defending others from ourselves.

Am I fair? It is an important question I have to ask myself.

How to open the doors of my world to let someone in, but up to extent which doesn't make me too vulnerable, and not HURT this person? Is it even possible not to be vulnerable when one is emotionally involved? No, I don't think it is. So, I have to be brave and accept the fact it may cause a pain.

I guess nobody is perfect and at some point of our lives all of us let ourselves or those we love down. It happens. We make mistakes, learn from them and try not to repeat them. Yet, sometimes we do. It happens also.

So, it all comes to trust, given and expected. Do I trust myself that I can be fair and do I trust someone who may let my trust down, or even worse?

Well, let see..

It takes time to earn the trust. Words are just words. That's not how it is done. Life puts us in various situations and based on how we deal with them we earn or do not earn someone's trust.

Till I don't see it to believe it, I have the right to wait for answers from others. I can do my part, but they have to do theirs.

I think I am fair if I choose not to open up and keep the door of my world just unlocked, but not quite opened yet. Not until the trust is earned.

That could HURT the person who may perceive it as pushing back. If there is no opened communication, it is unfair. I am ready to answer the questions and show what I am made of, but it has to be reciprocal. If not, than it is unfair to me.

Walking away isn't cowardly or dishonorable if one side doesn't feel accepted and/or appreciated.

Being honourable means being upfront and clear about intentions.

Walking away if I feel my condition of reciprocity has not been met is not cowardly.

So I have rights to ask questions up to extent I am willing to provide answers.I think that is fair.

One question answered. Good!

I shall remain in a stealth mode for a while, till I find other important answers.

Yes, please. It's not morning here, but thanks!

The settings are the way they are for two reasons:

1) Spammers and scammers are annoying and they NEVER give up, so this prevents them from sending message from overseas while maintaining a fake profile in which they claim to be within the region of 50 miles.

2) I do not want to get into long distance relationships or make pen pals (exchange text messages and phone calls) , so if the person is in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada there is a chance to meet, get to know each other and take it from there


There is a simple way to resolve this and it is called "add as a friend" invitation.
If you chat with someone on the forum and want to add this person as a friend, I think it is possible even if mail filters are up and running.

After an initial exchange of messages there is no problem with keeping in touch by mail, because new Mingle mail setting would overwrite the filter settings once the mail has been sent and received.

You are right.

Lovely sunny morning and having my coffee and cigarette in peace, without rushing anywhere, nice and slow beginning of a day makes me happy.

Welcome to "tomorrow"! It is Friday today.

Who is that Mingler sitting there? Looks familiar...

Good morning Scooby. Hello Miglers. It's coffee time!

Good to see you Ame!
Yes, distance makes a difference in these things, but again, we are here to chat, perhaps even meet, so we all check other people's profiles, some more often than others (after reading their posts}.
I figured it's not a big deal.
And accidents...oh well, I learned not to put a lotion before using anything with a touch-screen.

http://youtu.be/PEzuXJ0rOJM

In order to get what you want you have to know what you are looking for, or rather, looking at.