Listen to your gut and don't judge yourself if you don't feel safe - listen to that and move at your own pace. When I was ready to start dating again I liked meeting people on line cuz it helped me to remember the questions and flirting and conversations that seem to only take place when someone is checking you out. Don't be fooled tho - there are pretenders and scammers on line so when you are ready to actually date - get out there and meet them over coffee ASAP and don't get into a long chatty relationship about yourself on line.

Most important - be yourself - do what interests you and be kind to yourself. It's more fun to meet someone who has a common interest because you have something to share so if cooking is your thing - look for a cooking class or check out your local meetups for lesbians. Good Luck. Have fun.