Be yourself is IMHO one of those pointless feel good phrases. I mean, every second we live we literally can't be anyone else. Even actors are still being themselves, they are being the version of themselves which acts as if they are a different person.

I think what people mean when they say they are 'being themselves' is really that they are being the VERSION that they wish to embrace and put forth, and at other times when they were not 'being themselves' they were not being the VERSION of themself they wish to embrace, usually because it resulted in too much pain or not enough pleasure for them or someone they cared about.

Could it be that we really are ALWAYS 'being ourselves', but we have the choice of which self we embrace?

Which self do you embrace? your best self or something else? if you embrace your best self, how do you describe that version?

I hope to grow and evolve in being the best self for whatever the situation involves. I would describe my ideal best self as : patient, balanced, spiritual, logical, and humble.


WOW !Such a thought provoking question, ''being myself'..or ''doing it my way'' can mean doing whatever comes naturally at the time, acting without restraint..and too bad if others get hurt, of course dictators do this all the time ...but surely cililisation means that we have to conform to standards of behaviour so that everything doesnt come to a grinding halt....I think it goes to the heart of being self aware and above all being responsible for my actions....good or bad, ....the fact that humans have bigger brains than other apes means that we can

How do you describe your BEST self?

i agree

I’ve never heard of an Irish Burt. Is that common?

Burt Reynolds? Probably spelled wrong.


My family also insists on first names being family names. I don’t know that they follow any order really. . My Father wanted my first name to be Miya, but he knew he would offend his Mother if I wasn’t named after her Mother Zhanet. Janet is the American equal. She didn’t care for the American version, but he stood his ground and she got over it. Haha!

As a child I had a friend named Bailey.

I remember asking my Mom when I was about 5, why she hadn’t given me a pretty name like Bailey. Haha!

What first name would you have given yourself?

What do you think a monster is?

Not just the dictionary definition.

If for example a Katrina sized storm, or a Tsunami sized flood, or a huge wildfire (meaning ~90-95% devastation) was due at your house in 15 minutes, with your current preparations, how long would you last, or would you get away safely with some remnants of your former life. I know, it sounds gloomy, but stuff happens beyond our control.
So I have a tough suitcase for photos, movies, documents, and things like that.
A backpack with light weight camping gear, some basic survival gear, and few clothes. And 80 litres of water stored for drinking (don't need to take it all). A reliable vehicle and all the basic tools for it, spare battery, spare fuel and oil, belts, fuses and globes.
I reckon for me, 5 mins to load up car. Then depending on head for hills, coast, or inland, 5 mins to head away ASAP, and then in the next 5 mins everyone else is getting on the road, chaos starts to reign, but hopefully I have a head start.

I'm only a bit of a 'prepper', it didn't take much to organise, and at least you might save your life.

I have my dab radio next to my bed, it plays podcasts too and audio books........listening to the sound of a friendly voice can be very sleep inducing, .I defy anyone to remain awake whilst listening to something for the 35th time ..:).I try to remember too that the sun does not actually go down, so if it's 2am and dark where I am, it must be bright sunshine and time to get up somewhere else .......
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Y'know, In a way, I've already won a lottery.
I'm now a few years past my forecasted expiration date.
I can't spend the money I get and I have all the material things I need.
I'm threadbare in the romantic love department and for that, you don't use money (you can, but you get what you pay for).

On a humorous take:

"I checked Craigslist for a new girlfriend but the only ones in my price range were old beaters."

Please tell your friend that the accepted wisdom is this:
'' all one can 'know' of love is that they love someone''...loving someone is all there is.........

whatever i do, he is never sure of my love
always he is in sorrow, even when we are good
the next moment is always a potential disaster

I couldn’t fib about my age if I wanted to.

My grandkids calling my cell in the middle of a date would give me away.

synonymous then

Dumping not as much as breaking things off. I probably felt worse than he did. I was mortified to have to hurt him, but was not willing to lead him on to even stronger feeling that I just didn’t share.

Hey, If we're dreaming, why not dream big?
We can start with 500 Trillion dollars.

First I would take care of my loved ones.
Then I would hire the best doctors to restore my health to its best possible condition.
Wouldn't really party.

I would hire a security force and travel the country anonymously.
Would do things to help random people cope.
Like:
Go into grocery stores and prepay the store so that day, all sales were covered.
Go into utility companies and pay down outstanding family unit bills to a zero balance.
Construct housing for city homeless.
Fund free clinics for health care.
Pay down low income student debt.
Set up grants for low income trade schools.
Open a national recycling center.
Have community greenhouses constructed.
Plant fruit trees and berry bushes on city land.
Hire people to tear down and cleanup abandoned buildings and factories.
Provide a tax rescue fund for middle income families.
Expand and support the Habitat for Humanity program to include community projects like parks and recreational facilities.
Become a supporting sponsor at zoos, libraries and museums.
Open a life services national program to teach people basic living.
Build a high speed, seaboard to seaboard, transportation corridor with expansion allocations, including mag-lev abilities.
Line the highways in rural areas with a network of solar electric panels.
Construct higher capacity shelters in disaster prone communities.
Buy my own broadcasting network.

Then, with the remaining 498 Trillion dollars I would start doing the same for other countries.
Working towards making the 3rd world status a thing of the past.

(Hypothetically)

After the party phase is over, what would you do with your days?

Hi lovely people. I'm just wondering how different people deal with the case of the lonelies. I watch TV (usually Netflix) and talk on some chat sites. I've made some good friends there. But it's nice to connect with real folks.
what do you think?

The only problem with living alone is its always my turn to wash dishes