I would take this ladies advice. I personally would not let this girl play games with your heart. Its girls like these that make guy like you and me decide to be single for the rest of our lives. It sucks. It takes alot out of a person and our lives. Don't let it tear you up anymore. It hurts, the best thing that I can suggest that you do is go to the store and get you self a movie or something to get your mind off this girl. Don't sit and think about it it just brings gray hairs and gives wrinkles. From what I have read her stance on you is loud and clear; its not your fault. It sound like you did everything right and more.

Hope you can get past this one it sounds like this lady has had an affect on you. Try not to let it anymore.

Very true! Although love takes us in all different directions. Love and mating is a complicated science that no one person or scientist has a good explaination too. Yes I agree with you that people in some instances are drawn to certian types of people/ races. But I have found a very nice lady of a different race and we have a great connection going; becoming very fond. When I talk to her its a non-issue as to the race of each other its the connection that we have and the depth of our conversations. Personally its never been an issue with myself or family. Roll with the punches and the curves that life puts in front of us and we can never go wrong.

I agree with you that women are great to have around and I'm not knocking this. I had found my soulmate at one point too. I'm just pointing out the flaws of both genders and that we males are not as bad as most females think we are and that the dating and relationship process and overall mate selection process is more complicated than anyone could have ever imagined. I wanted to find out if anyone could come up with a good response to the post that I had. I agree with you one hundred percent. I don't agree with womens open perception that males are players and just want to have sex and overall hurt females. They' re are some good guys. If the article that was attached to my post was read this would be clear that mating habits of both genders can be attributed to the faults that happen with all of us.


Thanks for playin!!

Sweet, That paint job has to look awesome! Ha Ha Ha. Make sure to color within the lines. Awesome!

Why are women such cheaters?Can someone please explain why women are so attracted to the bad boys. They eventually get hurt by them and then they look for the good guy. I really have never got a good understanding of this. Take for instance a women sees this thug smokin a dubie with his pimp rims and his thug colors. She falls head over heels for this guy, wrecks her life, gets a kid, becomes broke, never goes to school, has an addiction, much more. She later in life find that this isn't what she wants so she comes crawling back. Why! Why would you not want to suceed, have goals and take the higher road. Now the example that I have given isn't nessarily true there are all sorts of degrees of this particular problem that I have observed! It just seems that these great women always take the other bad boys first and then 10yr later come back and decide that this was the bad thing to do and that they want to start something with you. I honestly don't know why! I always hear women tell guys that we think with our penis, but truthfully women think with there vagina as well! touche' girls!!!!

Guess What I found my answer!!:)


By Rick Moore

From M, summer 2006

For years now, many men concerned with appropriate behavior have been training themselves to be better long-term mates--honing traits such as niceness, self-deprecation, acquiescence, and good parenting skills. After all, those are the qualities women purportedly prefer in a long-term partner.

Could that mean that women no longer have time for the alpha males of the world--the competitive, athletic, socially dominant, masculine men? Not exactly. According to recent research, women are still attracted to those types of men, but more strongly during the ovulation phase of their menstrual cycles.

University of Minnesota psychology professor Jeff Simpson, along with colleague and U grad Steve Gangestad of the University of New Mexico, conducted a detailed study in which 76 men were videotaped trying to "win" a date with an attractive woman. They then had trained raters code the various behaviors that each man exhibited. Behaviors were categorized as those more appealing in long-term mates (such as self-deprecation or claims of being a nice guy or a good conversationalist) or in short-term mates (such as mentioning athleticism, asserting superiority, or putting down another male who was also vying for the date). Women then watched the videotapes and rated the men for their attractiveness as either a short-term mate or a long-term mate.

The results? Women found men who displayed short-term mating behaviors more attractive, but only when they were ovulating and evaluating men as possible short-term (rather than long-term) mates. In a second study, another group of women evaluated the interviewed men in terms of their mate characteristics. Long-term traits included adjectives such as warm, faithful, and financially successful, and short-term traits were terms such as influential, arrogant, and sexy. Once again, women found men who displayed short-term traits more attractive, but mainly when they were ovulating and rating the men as possible short-term mates.

The bottom line? "Women's mating is more complex and context dependent than we ever imagined," says Simpson.

There are a number of caveats and implications related to Simpson's and Gangestad's research. Most women don't know exactly when they're ovulating, even though many women report greater physiological arousal and stronger sexual desire during ovulation. Women also have an enhanced ability to categorize men and access behavioral traits from memory during ovulation. And if women were seeking genes to produce more viable offspring--perhaps subconsciously--during ovulation, these mating preference changes would make sense, if those short-term traits were associated with better survival or more attractive appeal as future mates during evolutionary history.

The findings might also explain some other anomalies. When women fall for men who are not "right" for them, the problem may lie in the timing. In some cases, women may base their mate choices on traits that are "good for short-term relationships, but disastrous for long-term relationships," Simpson says. In other words, "some ovulating women could be evaluating men on attributes that they wouldn't use if they wanted to find a compatible long-term mate."

If some women are tempted to cheat, Simpson claims that "these findings indicate when it's most likely to happen and what kinds of male features women should find most appealing".

And for the sensitive New Age guys of the world, take heart. Women still do value men who have long-term mate traits, but they may have to take a back seat-at least for a short while--when women are most fertile.