Kind of an update. So Ive been talking to her some more. And I told her my position how I did like her and am still open to dating. She told me she has a really good time with me but she has too hangout some more before she can make a decision. She said in September she had promised herself not to get into a relationship unless she was a 100 percent sure she wanted to be in it. To avoid getting hurt or hurting the other person. And she explained that she got kind of caught up when we initially started going out and coupled with her friends asking if we were dating. She hastily agreed too.... So I dont know. We agreed to hangout this coming week, and she seems open to the idea of a relationship. She said she'll be able to think clearer after finals are done. Im willing to see if it leads anywhere, but Im also going to keep my options open just in case.

@dhska
Yea? And thats the thing is I dont want to be putting in a ton of work just for something like her fooing around to happen. What are some similarities you see, that you've had. If you don't mind me asking?

@EasternSquirrel
Sorry for the confusion. she is a virgin. Which I do believe, I knew what type of girl she was in highschool and her parents are kind of strict eastern european lol so there not just letting her get away with whatever. That being said she's never had a real bf. She had one guy she talked too that lived a while away, but i dont think they ever met. And another guy she hung out with some, a few years ago but he was kind of a jerk I guess and ended up leaving.

@Wux
you are definitely right when you say no one can extinguish someone's love for another person. I think thats my biggest issue right now. Because I really do like her, even with all this nonsense. Its funny you mention expressing emotions in another outlet though. I just started keeping more of a journal. It does seem to help with these issues. lol never been much of a painter but I might have to give that a try as well.

Yea I appreciate that post. I agree Im sure she's kind of feeling her way trying to figure it all out. She's also always been self conscious about her weight( shes not fat) and I think recently guys have been showing more interest in her. So its given her a sort of confidence boost and in turn she's feels like she has options? Idk its hard to explain. But yea I actually ended up talking to her today. And she explained that lately every little thing has been annoying her not just from me, but like her best friend she hasnt talked too in a week. She says shes been under alot of stress and is having trouble coping. Its her first year in uni and finals are tougher for her than she realized they'd be I think. Idk maybe after school, which is done this week things might improve. She seemed a litte more positive and apologetic after we talked.. I just dont know. Id love for this to go well but yea its still unsure for me.

Thanks for the kind words. I dont think its going to work out...at least not at this moment. I thought today maybe she was changing becoming that nice girl I knew before. Haha nope. She's still playing the same games and trying to make me feel stupid. I think im just going to tell her how I realy like her, but this whole situaution is not working. She obviously is not serious about commitment and shes not mature enough to treat me with respect. Its too bad but thats just how it is. I know shes not going to own up to anything I say, and I really dont care. Hopefully if anything she'll think about it and maybe change. Im pretty sure she's exploring other guys too....I mean people don't usually change their minds about being in a exclusive relationship and then become cold and distant if they aren't seeing other options. It hurts but at least Im not going to be pulled along anymore. Lol I guess don't hate the player hate the game. But yea thats my mini rant. Thanks all for the advice.

Thanks I appreciate the advice. I know I could get hurt putting myself out there...but at this point Id rather she knew how I felt about her and get rejected than her not knowing. And I do realize she may not be ready for commitment. But Id rather find out now, then continue on for a while more guessing and wasting both our time. I think she is young and probably pretty emotional, she doesnt do a good job of communicating when something upsets her. But anyways I guess Il find it where she stands.

No and thats the thing. I really do like her that much. Any other girl by this point I would have said adios too.. But her its different. I figure Ill lay it on the line and tell her exactly how I feel. Que Sera Sera. I really wish I justhad a better gauge of where she was right now. I suppose I will once I tell her.

Also I guess I dont know exactly how Id go about telling her how much I care for her. Im just worried she'll think Im being corny or just saying it to appease her. How would I do it and come off as totally sincere?

Thanks alot. No that does help. And I guess I have sort of been questioning if I havent shown her how much I really care. Because I really do. I think after how shes been acting lately, that maybe Ive been afraid of opening up and putting myself out there and getting ridiculed. Not say thats what would happen...but I guess maybe Ive been nervous about it.

I know I know. And Ive been telling myself all this stuff, I mean when you lay it out its hard to justify why I'd stick around. It's just...when she isn't like that, she's awesome I just love being around her. And I just dont understand how in literally one or two days someones feelings for you can completely change...I might be grasping here, but I think one reason for her behaviour might be because she hasnt ever really had a bf before. Like I literally took her on her first date. That maybe she has all these ideas how a perfect bf should be and how things should exactly be. Like the one time we went out bowling with her friends and she complained afterwards that I didnt show her enough affection like the other guys did to their girfriends. And I know the other guy she sort of dated was a pretty big *******, and I think maybe she feels if she shows weakness in the relationship shell get stepped all over again. But ike I said I dont know.

Your right I definitely don't. And as much as I dont want to believe it, thats probably what I'd become. I was planning on meeting with her in person one last time. And just explain how I felt and depending on that either move on or not. If she's going to keep acting the same though Im not going to stick around.

I know she is young though ( a year younger than me) and emotional. and has had to deal with ******** in the past. She says shes not high maintanence but she efinitely is.

Unfortunately your probably right. I sort of dont want to believe it since she was so into me not that long ago. And I know I should just move on and chalk it up as a learning experience but its tough to do with her...idk why. Some of me thinks shes still intrested she was chatting to me tonight seeming more interested but like i said i dont know.

Met this girl about a month ago on another dating site

We had gone to the same school, and I knew her brother

Anyways we go on some dates, hanging out, texting alot

I eventually ask her if shed like to be exclusive. She says she would but that I'd have to ask her in person. ( I was on a trip at the time).

She also says she knew she wanted to date me after the second date.

Anyways fast forward a few days ago. Shes been real moody lately snapping at things I say, subtely trying to mock me, blaming me for stuff...and trying to make me jealous

I ask her how she feels about us and If she still wants to be exclsuive.

She says shes confused and thinks she rushed things and isn't sure she really does want to be exclusive.

Anyways since then I havent seen her. She has texted me some but basically it was once trying to make me jealous ( she said she hung out with a guy friend one night) and basically pointless stuff

I just dont know what to do. I really like her alot. Obviously to put up wih all this. If she was anyone else I would have ditched in a second. Its just like she Jekyll and Hyde.

On a side note shes a virgin, never had a real bf. But I just dont know what to do. Sorry for the long read to lol