100% FREE ONLINE DATING
sponsored links
Community > Posts By > LexFonteyne
|
Topic:
Unchanging
|
|
Stuck? I will say I admire you're optimism As in "it can't be any worse" Made me smile for the first time today. Thank you You're most welcome. I'm not really comfortable with poetry, so it's nice to know that someone got something out of this....! |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
As a practical matter, I wish they would simply say, "Oh, by the way, if any sort of relationship develops out of this, I will feel obligated to change everything about you" at the first sign of any compatibility whatsoever. That would save everybody a lot of time.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Unchanging
|
|
Thank you!
Just one of "those days," ya know....? 
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
What about men? Do they recommend/prefer lies as a means for women to get what they want? Oh no! I am so tired of them telling me what they think I want to hear, INSTEAD of the truth. It never works out when they do it that way.... |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Mr. / Mrs. / Ms.Lonely
|
|
Those who are not lonely in nature comes out of loneliness quickly but it is true that some people ENJOY LONELINESS.  & it's okay,not an offense at least.May be that is good for their health too.
I have always understood "loneliness" to contain an inherently negative connotation; i.e., something is missing, something is lacking. If you rephrase it to "some people enjoy solitude," I would be inclined to agree. But I suspect the only people who truly enjoy loneliness are masochists. It's a bit like saying some people enjoy having a leg amputated. Well, possibly, but there's something else going on there and it's not necessarily healthy. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Unchanging
|
|
Sandwiched in between
The pain and the regret Is a string of fleeting memories, Well-worn but not well-spent The world keeps on spinning, But it doesn't seem to move The gambler keeps on gambling, But he cannot win or lose Malevolent reality Waits idly by the door The stark unchanging nothingness Persists forevermore There isn't any remedy For this specific curse But the unconsoling concept That it can't get any worse.... |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I've had real good luck with Amazon -- had to return a couple things, and it was all very quick and easy.
And Walmart.com has been good to me, too. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
All of my viewers are 48, with 3-12 kids. Except for the scammers, who are all 22 and from New York. HA! Another familiar face from my olden days in Mingle. I always enjoyed reading your posts. Full of insight & humor. Glad to see you're still around. 
Well, where am I gonna go? I love it here!
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
All of my viewers are 48, with 3-12 kids.
Except for the scammers, who are all 22 and from New York. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Mr. / Mrs. / Ms.Lonely
|
|
There is difference in feeling lonely & being lonely. There is? How do you know you're lonely unless you have the sense, the "feeling," of it? And if you had no sense of it, or "feeling" of it, what would make you recognize yourself as being lonely? There is no such person who never felt lonely in life.We can't term everyone lonely for that reason,else 'lonely' word will be meaningless. Agreed, but I don't see what that has to do with the original premise. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Mr. / Mrs. / Ms.Lonely
|
|
OK, I am officially confused here. I'm alone more than 99% of the time. Sometimes I feel lonely and sometimes I don't. Does this mean my selfishness quotient varies, based on whether I'm feeling lonely at that particular moment or not? Because that just seems way too specious and arbitrary for me.... Just fill that 1% with a nice lady and heaven is yours. I agree with you in theory....!
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Mr. / Mrs. / Ms.Lonely
|
|
I think lonely people are actually selfish.It is their tendency to keep things up to themself only,to not share anything with others. They keep thinking about themself only & hence becomes lonely. They are usually narrowmided & touchy. They have many expectation from others ,like somebody shall love them all the time,shall ask them repeatedly,why they are not happy... Don't loneliness reflect selfishness really?? I think you mean people who are alone as opposed to lonely. And, no I don't agree. People are alone for many reasons and often they would be very happy to have someone special in their lives. But, for those who choose to be alone, maybe it's selfishness and maybe it's not. Who really cares why they do it? Some people stay in a relationship for selfish reasons as well. Whatever. No ruth. I mean people who remains lonely,not alone. I see around even many FAMILIES too,who are really lonely. I see many people ( As a well known example,say mother Teressa)who were / are alone but never remained lonely. OK, I am officially confused here. I'm alone more than 99% of the time. Sometimes I feel lonely and sometimes I don't. Does this mean my selfishness quotient varies, based on whether I'm feeling lonely at that particular moment or not? Because that just seems way too specious and arbitrary for me.... |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Responses
|
|
I agree Lex..... Other than e-mails from some folks I have become friends with... I pay no attention to them. But I don't get many anyway. Friend requests from anyone I have interacted with in forums will generally be accepted....but not from others. Nudges are ignored.....if she can't type a few coheriant sentences....a wink aint gonna get my attention. It's a red flag for me when "she" sends me a message that is so generic, so non-personalized, that she literally could send the same thing out to everyone in the world and it would be just as applicable. Because it usually ends up being the first step on a stairway that leads to "Come and see my private pics! Only $24.99 a month!" or some such idiocy. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Responses
|
|
I really wouldn't have any problem responding to someone who actually gave me something to work with. But the "Hi" and "Hello" and "Sup?" e-mails always turn out to be from scammers, anyway, and I'm past the point in my life where it appeals to me to have to generate both ends of the conversation. Sup....Dude?????? Nada. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Responses
|
|
I really wouldn't have any problem responding to someone who actually gave me something to work with. But the "Hi" and "Hello" and "Sup?" e-mails always turn out to be from scammers, anyway, and I'm past the point in my life where it appeals to me to have to generate both ends of the conversation.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Destiny
|
|
I'm mainly stating that we all are bound by destiny somehow & the ultimate example is "at least our birth is decided only by destiny" "Destiny" requires the existence of someone or something to decide what the "destiny" is going to be for any given individual, etc. (Or -- "destined by who or what?") To "destine" requires a conscious act of decision-making, ergo, you need a "destiner" for any of that to hold up. I'm not convinced. As far as I can tell, our birth is decided by biology, which is an entirely different thing. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Responses
|
|
I was going to start a new thread about this,but this seems like the appropriate place to post in. Any suggestions about what to say in first contact e-mails? I never know how to break the ice? Ah, the Mysteries of Life. I've written eight books and several shopping lists, and I STILL can't produce a first e-mail that ever gets a response. So I don't even bother anymore. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
Responses
|
|
Lots of profile views, lots of nudges, lots of e-mails, a few friend requests.
I rarely reply to any of them. I don't reply to nudges or friend requests from strangers at all, and I don't reply to vapid, empty e-mails that say nothing other than "Hi" or "Hello" or contain two sentences that are so generic they could be sent to anyone in the world and be equally applicable. On average, I'd guess that I actually reply to less than 2% of the e-mails I get. I don't send out first e-mails, so I don't have to concern myself with the response rate to those. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
It’s not you, it’s me..
|
|
I find it strange (especially with people that I have never met), that they hold me responsible for their perception when they are the ones that haven't taken the time to do anything other than 'read' the surface veneer. Well, I use that as an indicator as to whether or not they're someone I want to deal with. The ones who refuse (or who are unable) to see beneath the surface generally aren't going to be people I'm likely to click with.... |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Topic:
It’s not you, it’s me..
|
|
Proves what? That you can recognise sarcasm in print Lex? Funnily enough, I'm not all that surprised 
I don't think negatively about you or the comments that you have posted since I've been on here...I have always appreciated honestly (or what I perceive to be honesty) even if it bucks the trend. I think "bucks the trend" is the operative phrase here. Some people just seem to be really uncomfortable when someone says anything that doesn't fit in with the standard-response model. I don't think the standard-response model gets anybody anywhere (other than into an unending cycle of more standard-response model verbogarbage) and I prefer not to see it as a legitimate form of communication. But -- and this gets back to the point I was trying to make earlier --if you don't play that game, some people see it as a negative. On another note, yes, I'm aware of my issues, the "me or them" thing is largely irrelevant unless/until I run across somebody I might actually be interested in, and, no, I don't really date enough to really know, assuming "zero" qualifies as "not enough." |
|
|
|
|
Previous
