Why would you want to ruin the gym. The gym is for yourself to workout, not to be hitting on women. Don't s*** where you eat.

I would have to agree with Tom, it's all about confidence and self-esteem. They are not only confident in approaching a complete stranger and risking rejection, but also they understand that rejection is a way of life and don't let that fear stop them as they know that they won't lose anything by it. The best feeling about that is that they can always cheer themselves up by knowing they at least gave it a shot.

What I find a bit confusing is your statement about married women. So what you are saying is you find it easier to walk up to a married woman and chat her up then a single one?

Sure. There's a reason why "settling" tends to work in the short and medium term.

But are you under the impression that experiencing "passion" in and of itself is some sort of signal that a "relationship" is successful, or deep, or meaningful, or is guaranteed to provide what you want, will last, or anything of much meaning whatsoever?



I think you were motivated to ask the question for a reason.

Are you experiencing communication from her (direct or indirect) that she expects you to be responding to her with "passion?"
That it's "supposed" to be there in the "relationship?"

Are you relying on "supposed to" or a "script" to determine the relationship and what it means?


What exactly are you annoyed with?
Her? Her behavior? Feeling the need to live up to expectations she is communicating but no motivation to do so, to reciprocate?
Just dating in general and not getting someone to do what you want when you want it without having to tell them?



So are you using strangers on a dating site to sublimate a perceived lacking in her personality?

There you go.
People tend to do that with their opposite sex "just friends."
You can be in a relationship with this woman, and come to us when you need someone to tell you what to do.

Other than that, is she expecting you to have the "take charge personality," which in many cases is expressed through behavior motivated by feelings of "passion" and that's what you're negatively responding to and getting annoyed with?

What was the reason for the relationship to end?

Jesus.
To me this is like saying "I've always wanted a puppy, but I don't really want the responsibility. I'm going to date a woman with
a puppy to get real world experience on whether or not I really want a puppy."

Jesus.
To me this is like saying "I've always wanted a puppy, but I don't really want the responsibility. I'm going to date a woman with
a puppy to get real world experience on whether or not I really want a puppy."

I haven't myself dated a woman with kids yet, but I know lots of people who have, and I've dated women who had other family-related responsibilities.

The main thing is, to realize that you personally can never be the ONLY reason why she does anything, or doesn't do something, no matter how much she loves you. You have to get yourself to think of the bigger picture at all times, of the children as well as the mother.

And one of the most challenging facts you MUST get through your head and keep there always, is that unless and until you marry the mother AND adopt the children as your own, AND the children decide to go along with that...

...that you are NOT their father, and no universal sense of how children should be raised should ever guide your thinking. If you forget or fail to recognize that that is true, you will just be another outsider trying to run someone else's life to satisfy your own ego.

Well you are amicable to instruction which is good.

I came back and reread your profile and factored in your age, and you might want to do a little more tuning up.

Starting a profile with Hey usually makes an adult woman start sniffing around for the the end result of hay. Try something a little more formal like Hello.

Unless you have duel or advanced degrees you really want to explain why you are pushing a decade as a student.

Might be the perfect time
to show a little gratitude for the family, entry-level employer, or scholarship program that got you through. Since massive student debt is intimidating if you worked your way through or busted yourself getting good grades a little low key brag is all good.

And hopefully you are not just planning to lay around on your degree you probably want to at least mention a career plan and a target
J-O-B.

And maybe even your living arrangements. 30 May not totally be "Failure to Launch" but if I were your age I would NOT even move in the direction of a guy who might just be looking for another girlfriend to move in on so he can play day and night. SORRY but college is still considered play in the real world.

Most of the photos are either blurry or taken in crappy lighting. You could use a little more information in your essay about who you are and the type of partner you seek. Otherwise, it's not bad.