Thanks for the advice. This looks like the site I will be needing.

When are you going?

I need advice from someone who has been to Saint Croix recently. I thought I would need a passport, but was told that a drivers license was all I will need. I sure don't want to get there and have trouble coming home....anyone know for sure from personal and recent experience?

Sorry to hear it Lex. Can I call you Lex?

BTW, I was going to read your profile, and will get back to it when I have more vacation time.

Hello Rapunzel

I guess I'm thinking that I'm in no hurry, but most mailing me seem to be anxious to meet quickly. Frankly, I just don't have the time for it now and thought that it worked more slowly than that. It looks like everyone is different about their methodology.

I considered not posting a pic, just so I would not attract people interested in only a certain look. I think people can get caught up in stereotypical dating habits. I was told I would not meet anyone if I indulged my thinking.

How do most of you envision this site working for you?

For instance, if you are looking for someone to begin a dating relationship with...

Do you meet online, spend time getting to know them and then move forward slowly to the point when you want to meet them?

Or do you send a few emails, have a couple of phone conversations and then meet right away to see if it's worth pursuing?

I would be Super Secretary, who fights irritable bosses with attitudes and bad memories. Like Wonderwoman, I would have a magic rope, but mine would make them remember that they never actually asked you to send that file...in fact they told you to wait on it and then THEY forgot. They would have to apologize and give their secretary a raise before I would untie them.

If that is true, I would beat him at his own game...meet him and not give him any action.

seaworthy boat, fresh water, food

I'll be home before I miss anything else too badly.

I think anyone could say someone is a player if things did not work out the way they wanted it to. I think you should make your own judgment from your own experiences with the person if you ever have any.

I don't think it's being rude or mean to politely tell them it's just not to your taste. Eat a little, so they know you made an effort to try the dish, but telling them it's good when you don't like it will only cause confusion down the road if they make it again and again.

It would depend on whether I feared it would make me sick or not.

I would rather risk ruining a date by telling him I didn't care for the dish, than to ruin it by spending the rest of the evening sweating and hanging over the commode.

I guess I need to cultivate a little more patience for this kind of thing. Email replies would not take so long if I didn't go back and forth so much as to what to say. Hopefully this will come with more experience as well.

Thanks so much for the tips. I did not come here to be rude or offend anyone, so I do want to respond. I just don't know what I'm doing yet. This helps a lot.

Thanks everyone!

I was not referring to the amount of mail, but the limit time I get here. I suppose this would sound rather pompous if you took it that way. Sorry I did not clarify that better.

That's what I'm talking about!
How do you respond to something like that?

I see your point, but the forums seem like a more relaxed atmosphere to start talking to someone. I just don't know how to respond and feel a bit in the corner when most email contact say things like...

mail: just thought I'd say hi



mail: check me out and let me know if you like me



mail: your profile gives me a woody



mail: do you wanna meet me? let me know.



I do not know how to respond to these things.

I'm sure you are joking.

I have answered those I have opened, since it seems rude not to. I'm wondering if the ones I haven't opened are all cussing me right now though...especially if they see me in the forums while their mail goes unread.

I think, see you in the forums is a good response when you don't know what to say. Thank you Lillith401.

if I don't want to answer my emails?

I've found that I'm weary of opening emails already. Most of them make me feel put on the spot in one way or another. Does anyone else feel that pressure? The forums offer a variety and ease that I find myself drawn to.

Also, with the limited time I spend here, I would not get to participate in the forums if I spent my time answering mail.

Would it be rude to ask that 1st contact be in the forums? That way, we would already know if we think we have something to talk about.

What does email etiquette dictate?

I like to think that's what most of us do now. NO?