It not matter of been able to communicate it bcos there is no connectivity btw d two.

Just Ask him, IF in case he wishes to get married again and he finds a list of people to marry and you are among the same list.

What will his reaction be? If he finds a LIST of people to marry I dont want to be on it. I wouldnt want to have a list of people I wanted to marry. He is not this list making type anyway.

wonder why it seems so hard for people to just comunicate

Umm, you realize that 'shy' is another way for people to disguise being self-centered, right ... ? Surprise him one day by grabbing his crotch and saying 'I want you right here right now!' and see what happens. I don't think 'subtle' is gonna work in a case like this. 'Direct action' will give you the answer you're looking for ... Worst that can happen is that he finally admits he just doesn't think of you 'that way' ... find out early. If he just wants 'friends' and you want more, it's time to look elsewhere.

How much of a help are you with his kids? Maybe he doesnt know what he is doing and needs you to be there to help with them. Do you hang out with out his kids around?

I'm going to guess by the information that you've provided:

He's only interested in a platonic friendship. You've been seeing each other for 10 months (after reconnecting) and no kissing/or more?! He can't be that shy........can he

It would be hard for me to wait around for someone when things aren't really discussed or "spelled out." My husband did it because he knew that I wasn't ready for a romantic relationship when we first met and he was ok with it but I know it would be hard for me if the situation were reversed....Just being honest.

Personally I wouldn't rock the boat, shy and burned, he is definitely taking his time. I mean if you want a relationship with him. If you are impatient and need to move on, I would move on. But if you see potential in the relationship, I would just go with the flow and let things happen naturally.

He has a child and that makes men act differently about the women in their lives. If he is sharing his child with you that can be a good sign.

My husband and I were just friends and "buddies" for two years before love entered the picture...We were super close and spent most of our time together...Later he told me that he did have romantic feelings towards me at times but he didn't want to be pushy and he knew I would probably run the other way if he pushed for more because I had been "badly burned" in a previous relationship and needed time to heal....He said that he was content to be my friend and accepted that we might just stay friends forever and this was ok with him....We had fun together and this was all that mattered to him...In the end I realized that that he was a "good guy" and someone I could trust....I'm the one who said "I love you" first and brought romance into the picture...We "dated" for a little while and decided to get married eventually...We had 24 happy years together until my husband passed away from pancreatic cancer this year....There is no telling what might develop out of a long term friendship.

stick your tongue down his throat and see what happens.....anything short of him biting it off will be a victory! but just in case....you may want to have the number of a good plastic surgeon handy.