my man got my attention when i was stranded at a gas station with nowhere to go, just coming off drugs, and had lost everything and everybody. he came and got me, took care of me while i detoxed, and got me back on track. im now doing better than i ever have before! he got me eating healthy for the first time in my life, i lost 45 pounds this way, and im even going to church again! he truly saved my life! i honestly believe if he hadnt done all this for me id be dead, cuz if he hadnt gotten me that night i probably would have gotten more drugs to kill the pain of loosing everything and everybody! im now in my familys life again, and am slowly gaining everything back! but most importantly, i now have a new family, jef and his two beautiful boys! but it did take him 3 yrs for me to realize he wasnt like the rest of the pigs out there and that he does truely love me! it takes time, thats all i can say!

Yeah heres my confession, I like to air dry sfter a shower, so I walk around naked, but I live alone.

















I just got out of the shower.

<<<Is perfect all the time! ok, maybe I might have a beer in the morning.....

I have a problem with that and I am a woman.

Men are not supposed to ask us a lot, but we are supposed to ask them?

A little too one sided I think.

1 you won't let me take you out,

2 you snubbed me in your flirt thread

What must a guy do to grab your attention in a good way? I cant seem to figure this out! Dont let my sexy smile fool you I have it hard in the love dept LOL!

After a year to my amazement this still needs to be said :

I have commented to the individuals, but it hasn t helped, or more have
come along, so i decided to make a thread just for them.

1)Don t ask for nude pix or to cyber or who wants to sex me

2) talk in english and in complete sentences

3)Respect is expected at all times

4)If you disregard the above, 2 things will happen. first the ladies will chew you up and spit you out, and 2nd the gentlemen of the site will defend the honor of these ladies.

5) Do post often and have fun, get to know them and if you find one you like and she s single then email , IM, go and meet her then after a period of time greater then 3 days... more like months later if you want provocative pics ask her privately not in forums as you are seen as a pig and disgrace yourself and make them insecure if they are shy.


I guarentee if you take my advice, you will meet somone alot faster.

If someone asks me a tough question...I am going to give that person the best answer I can.

Sometimes, it works to my disadvantage, but I would rather answer truthfully and let the woman know what she's in for.

I have a theory I call "Irony When Faced With Real, Interrupting The Image". This theory states that:

The assumption of one's thought about how we perceive another is almost always different after that other person opens his or her mouth to talk.

While I much love giving people the benefit of the doubt (and let's face it, on here we almost HAVE to do that), 9 times out of 10, first impressions in an online world are, at best, a crap shoot. This is due mostly to the limited function of words on a screen substituted for body language, facial expressions, and voice pitch.

Conversely, those same "words on a screen" have such an odd empowering effect, people (guys and girls) say things on here they would NEVER say to someone's face, offline, "in real life".

Finally, there are two kinds of people online. Those that view the Internet as an extension of reality, and those that view it as an escape from reality. In many cases, it takes but a single conversation to figure out what a person's intentions are on here.

Just my (not so) humble opinion... of course, I could be wrong.

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Hello, that is an excellent analysis. Especially, "two kinds of people online. Those that view the Internet as an extension of reality, and those that view it as an escape from reality." I'm one of those escape from reality gals...I like to relax and use my wits as an escape from bordom, etc. But, back to your point, tonight I had the unpleasant experience of chatting with a guy (from my own town) who literally had a temper ALL CAPS tantrum on me when I said, "well, thanks for the chat, I have to go now" to which he responded, "oh, Oh!" to which I responded "bye bye; I don't think that we are a good match here, and I hope you have a nice life" to which he responded that I was RUDE.

I just figure that there are some things about me that may cause a woman to lose interest.

Nothing major, but just stuff from my ( much ) younger years that have been factors in who I am and why I am the way I am.

I think it's better to give them a heads up than to try to hide anything.

Hey, when you find one of those guys...Get back with me, k?

clueless in general, maybe a little frightened. You women are always watch and judging analyzing every word used and how it was used how can a guy cope with this kind of pressure
oh by the way "How you doing!"

Its just not one sided.

ive had girls give me nothing to respond too. you cant make us do all the work this is a Dating site, not a bar/meeting someone randomly.

but i will admit, i know guys who are bad about it and say wrong things.

nahhh...they couldn't continue to torture us if they actually gave us a script...lol