Been married to both. Black first... Then White. I based neither on color but how we got along after meeting and being friends for a while. I just don't discriminate. After being with both... the only color I think we should all be looking for is... Beautiful...

Well in my book DNA doesn't have a darn thing to do with parenting so if I have been acting as the child's parent I don't give a hang. I am going to keep doing what I have been doing. Until the guardian and or the child asks me not to. Rarely will a child that does not have a parent totally reject someone who is looking out for their best interest. Some parents are ignorant enough to do it but rarely will a court order guardian reject you for taking some of the responsibility for a child.

If I have not been parenting the child well then I would probably want to know how anyone is trying to pass off a child as mine.

Maybe for the child's sake I would get involved.

I have several of my Foster kid's that have in the absence of family honored me as "Mom/Grandma" in their kid's lives. Good parenting is something people seem to see as a life time need/blessing.

Parenting a child that is not yours is not all wine and roses and definitely NOT for the inexperienced or the faint of heart.