Because they have no respect for their partner or themselves. IMO.



I've never cheated in a relationship so I can't attest to exactly what kinds of excuses people use in their own minds to make this practice of dishonor and deceit acceptable.

When I reach the point with my partner where I'd rather be with someone else I divorce the one before moving on to another. All the men I've known don't like their women cheating on them even though some don't have a problem doing it themselves. And the men that have cheated on me didn't respect my feelings or the value of our reputation as a couple.

Cheaters bring shame on their family name when their behavior is made public and neighbors mostly side with the innocent partner. If both are cheaters their family name is generally mud because it shows a complete lack of dignity or respect on both partners part.

I realize there are relationships in which both partners are agreeable to swinging or cheating, but even in these open minded scenarios it's hard for me to believe that people who will orgy or have multiple sexual partners besides their significant other really do love and respect one another, or if they're just both into indiscriminate sex.

In these types of unions I wonder how long they really last once a partner falls for a better lover they hooked up with. Or if couples actually make lifetime commitments and have families they can teach these same loose morals too. I wonder if the children of swingers then go on to think its okay to be unfaithful too.