EquusDancer I would think that it wouldn't need to be a matched pairing or if you get someone, I also can get someone.

I would think it would depend more on who you were and what you wanted. And if your a couple, decide what it is that works for you...

For example: SwimsForRealsGirl has expressed a wish for two husbands. This is the true defining aspect of what she would like to have.

I wholeheartedly approve of her choice.

If she has a strong personality and seeks a Polygany relationship, one that is based upon love, honor and respect, there is no reason that she should not seek out and find that relationship.

All too often, I have heard many people speak about the Sister/Wives and say that the women should be allowed to seek out other men also. But that is not what their relationship is based upon.

So in my honest opinion, it would be fundamentally unfair to assume that this is what the Sister/Wives want. They do not seek out nor wish for different men. And they enjoy their relationships with each other as Sisters and this becomes quite obvious when the show is watched through several episodes.

So Swimforrealsgirl you go for it. just make sure you seek based upon love and not lust. Else the triad will surely fail.

In truth, Love Conquers All.

I agree with you AndyBgood, it is important to keep in mind that just because one person in a relationship may want more, it doesn't give them the right to coherce and cajole their partner into a type of relationship that could ultimately bring some degree of harm to the person being forced into this type of relationship.

Both must want this type of lifestyle (for good reason) before committing to it.

Personally, I could never be with more than two as I believe this would be more harmful to me than it would be good.

But I do like the idea of Sister/Wives, as I was able to experience firsthand what it meant to both Shelby and Diane. They truly loved each other and shared moments with each other that I was not privilaged to share.

It was only after Shelby had left, that Diane expressed this to me and I began to understand how important it was to her to have someone of her own gender to talk to and share moments with.

Needless to say, back then, this was quite a learning curve for me...

Yes, I also watched the DVR of the Orah show of that and I agree with your assessment of the reaction he had EquusDancer.

But then, each to their own. Personally, I think it depends on who you are and what you want out of a relationship.

I also have some very close friends who practice this lifestyle. Rachel has two hubbies (both are handfasted to her) and they have been together for a tad over twelve years. I have talked to both of the hubbies and what I get from them is they are very content. But then Rachel is a very dominating woman and both hubbies are at ease with her running the show, "so to speak". And when I queried them about how they would feel if one or more women were to be involved in the relationship, both were quite adamant about why this would not work for them.

And although I also was a tad scornful of his reaction, (what is good for Tommy, should be good for Nancy too) after assessment, I realized that each of us are different and unique and so what I might like, others may not.

I would say the key to this is being respectful of others choices, unless those choices brings harm to the ones involved. And I truly don't feel that anyone should force anyone else to conform to their idea of what is a right and proper lifestyle, if in fact, that lifestyle is good for those involved and causes no harm.

Ok, so I have had a chance to watch several episodes of Sister/Wives and found it to be both interesting and informative.

More so, because back in the day "1979-LOL", when I was a young man, I was in a similar situation with two girlfriends (Shelby & Diane) and we all lived together in a mostly blissful existence for two years and nine months.

Then Shelby's family found out that there was more than just me.

Let me clarify: There was absolutely no sexual interest between Shelby and Diane, but when they discovered that Diane was also equally significant in my life, that was the beginning of the end.

Shelby and I called it off, because I was unwilling to see her go through any further torment from her mother and father and after six nights of discussing what was best for all of us, she also finally agreed to end it.

Shortly thereafter (two months and eleven days) Diane and I also closed the door on our relationship.

It was one of the saddest days I have ever experienced, when I had to take control over what my heart wanted and make the decision to do what was hopefully best for Shelby.

And to this day, I truly believe that was what caused the end of Diane and I also.


And the reason I believe this? Because neither Shelby or Diane had biological sisters and they absolutely loved each other "and fought with each other" like sisters.

Yet they were as different as night and day in the way they approached life. And it was in this difference that they found comfort with each other.

So, .... having said all that, what say ye?

Uhm, well in my case, what the frick happened? I am a musician and an engineer-(that's a very dangerous combination by the way!)

Ok, I am also a Scorpio, but still, are you trying to convince me that if someone is an intellectual, their sex drive/stamina suffers as a result? Really? Really?

Frick, I want it twice a day and let's not even talk about what happens to my sex drive if I am near water...

So, like the only way I can have any peace from "The Urge' is to move to the desert. But then there is always a source of water nearby no matter where I decided to live.

As an example: Making coffee is a real chore for me, because the moment I turn on the water to get some in the coffee pot, ka-boom, I get the urge... If I drink some Iced Tea-ditto, sometimes just the thought that my body is made up of mostly watter is enough to send me wiggin out thinking about sex.

Whew, just about sent myself over the edge there what with all this talk about water and uhm... awwww sheesh here we go again.......

And it's sad, sad I tell you, that you live in Frisco.

I love that town but just way too expensive for homes and so Metro Detroit is me ole home.

Thank you much, truly with eleven very nice emails sent when mutual interest was indicated and no replies back in four days, I thought perhaps it was something on my profile or perhaps-lol-my emails sounded to nice.

Thank you!

I have indicated interest and sent very nice emails, with no replies after four days.

I was getting worried ... sigh

My profile is okay or is it too bland.

Ladies, if ya care at all, help me out!