The site is what you make of it. Just like walking outside of your door every day you need to be able to judge everyone's character. If something seems amiss then odds are you should probably avoid it like the plague. You just have to be aware at all times what's going on and if something sounds too good (or too bad) the chances are you need to distance yourself from it.

Don't be afraid to be picky at all. It's your right to be. Remember this is all about YOU.

What I was looking for? Man... let's see here.

Well I've gone through a lot of trial and error over the years. When I was younger it was all about "well who's hot and who isn't". Mind you it was primarily sex driven. I won't lie about that. As the years went by though I had to refine what I was looking for because everything I was doing was just plain wrong and ended up with me being with someone who treated me poorly (and later on my daughter). This is what I've finally come down to.

1. Someone who is willing to accept me for me, period. I spent far too many years trying to change myself to fit the needs of someone else. Giving up things I enjoyed, forcing myself to "enjoy" things that I didn't. You should never do that. ALWAYS be who YOU are not who someone else wants you to be.

2. A woman who loves children. Not just her kids, but anyone's. That's a big factor for me. Primarily because I have a daughter and she's the most important person to me in my life. If you have children they need to be the FIRST priority. My current girlfriend is aware of that. She has a daughter as well. We both put their well being before ours.

3. She has to be able to keep up with me. This is both physically and mentally. I wouldn't be able to stand being with someone who wasn't too terribly bright. That and I'm constantly active.. always out doing things and enjoying the world.

4. She has to be honest. That is a BIG one. There's far too many people out there who just refuse to say what's on their mind. If something is bothering you.. you need to speak up. Nobody is a mind reader. If you're happy you gotta let me know so I can keep on doing the things that are making you happy. Likewise if you're sad, miserable, or just upset.. gotta be vocal about that as well so I know that there's a problem and we can work together to find a solution to what's causing it.

5. You've got to have the same sense of humor I do. I find nearly everything funny. I mean almost everything. They can't be easily offended at all and at the same time they need to have the quick remarks to go a long with mine. If you can't consistently make each other laugh it's going to be doomed to failure.

6. This will be the last one I'll put up.. there's probably more but this has turned in to a book already. She has to be independent. Her own place, a stable job, a good income, her life in order. I've gone on far too many "rescue" missions and they have all ended extremely poorly. In this day in age it's hard and sometimes nearly impossible for just ONE person to handle it all. If she doesn't have the capability to handle her own affairs then I can't involve her in mine.

My Girlfriend is very romantic... well in that nerdy kind of way (which is good because I fit the stereotype of a geek perfectly). We make an evening of watching Doctor Who, sometimes I cook, sometimes she does, go for long drives together out in the middle of no where, or sometimes we just don't do anything at all except lay there and discuss random things.

You don't need a candle light dinner, lingerie, roses, or any of that noise to have it be considered romantic. It's sharing in the things that you both enjoy together. Enjoying and cherishing every moment that you have.... even if things go wrong for one or both of you.