I actually avoid the women who say they are looking for the one. I am not the one, I am not Neo in the Matrix. I am just a guy who wants to meet someone to be with and if possible start wanting to be with them more often; maybe want to become a better person for her. This is something that is built up over time, not by meeting "the one" right off the bat. Too many little things can be a stumbling block to being the one. When you get to know and care for a person- maybe a mistimed joke or a slipped out fart, won't suddenly mean I am not the one, but just the guy who wants to be with you because of you.