The problem with thinking you'll grow old together is one of a couple will always die first. When I date a man he will inevitably be older than me, quite often doctoring to lower triglycerides and cholesterol. I'm afraid there's not a chance of a man outliving me. Cardiologist told me the other day my heart is in great shape. I have perfect blood tests also. I would love to see people start taking better care of themselves before they turn 50. My husband died at 65 and he was told all the years we were married he could have a massive coronary. I've accepted the fact I will live alone for many years yet and it's nice in many ways. I hire people to do the hard work here and I do the things I enjoy like cutting grass with the riding mower.